Introduction & Disclaimer
Dear Brides-to-be & Grooms-to-be,
I am very pleased to present my wedding preparation kit for all couples who are going to get married soon or in the mid of preparation.
A small introduction of me, I first started to prepare my wedding on August 2007 as my big day was on March 2009. As and when I had gone through my preparation, I started to compile and share my experience to guide all couples.
This blog will assist you on the information on how you can start your wedding and some resources. So-called a useful blog that compile from my research and experience to provide all informations for all brides-to-be or grooms-to-be.
As I say, all informations compile from my research and experience, you will expect some copyrights from other articles & websites.
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Hope this kit will be useful to you! Have fun!
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Sunday, November 30, 2008
10 Wedding Mistakes To Avoid
Avoid these common wedding pitfalls:
10) Don't Rock the Cash Bar - When it comes to alcohol at your reception, what you serve is entirely up to you. Whether you choose to serve a full bar, limited cocktails, Beer and Wine, or no alcohol at all will be based on various factors including budget. The one option that is not recommended is a Cash Bar. Your guests should be gracious enough to accept what is being offered to them. If however a guest feels the need for a drink selection that is not offered, chances are that he or she will be resourceful enough to find it.
Also, request that bartenders not put out tip jars. If you are hosting the bar, tell your catering contact that you are happy to pay gratuity to the bartender(s) but that you do not want your guests to feel obligated to tip.
9) Go flat! A huge number of brides give feedback that they wish they had worn flats, having kicked off their heels during the reception. As a bride you can expect to be standing for 8-12 hours on your wedding day. Be sure to break in your shoes well in advance. Even when wearing flats, unexpected blisters can form after a few hours on your feet.
8) Have a little faith. D.J.'s are perhaps the wedding vendor most micromanaged by couples. Too many song requests may actually impede the flow of your party. You hire your D.J. to judge when to play what music. You wouldn't instruct your Caterer step by step on how to prepare food, or your Photographer on what angles and lenses to use. Limit your D.J. request list to a few favorites and a do-not-play list of only the songs you cannot stand. Do not get carried away and have some trust.
7) Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize. What really matters most to you, the photographer, the music and dancing, the food and wine, the decorations, or being able to accommodate a large guest list? Put your money towards what you care about. You will have regrets if you skimp on what really counts. When you, the Bride and Groom are not footing the bill yourselves however, you may have to forfeit some financial decision-making. If this is the case you will need to compromise on certain priorities or if you really want that pricey photographer offer to pay for one yourself.
6) Bibbity Bobbity Boo. Wedding Dress shops are notorious for having your dress shipped in at the last minute. Think about it, if you owned a Wedding Dress Boutique you wouldn't want every brides dress held at your shop for nine+ months before their weddings. Schedule your first fitting well before your wedding. Your final dress fitting should be no less than 1 week prior to your wedding so that alterations can still be made.
Tuxedo rentals for all attendants must be tried on, that includes Dad. Whether the Tailor seemed to take precise measurements or not, too many men still show up at weddings with high waters or baggy tuxes.
5) Don't hit the road, Jack. Your wedding day is one of the biggest, most important days of your life. You will be exhausted and a bit disorderly the following day. Going away is the last thing you will want to worry about. Wait at least a couple of days before venturing on your honeymoon. Your wits will thank you.
4) Last night of single life. DO NOT hold your Bachelor or Bachelorette party the night before your wedding! This may seem like a no-brainer but many brides and grooms still practice the archaic ritual of drinking all night on that fatal evening. It is simply not worth it, as the Bride/Groom and your attendants will no doubt feel tired, look tired, have a hangover, or worse be sick walking down the aisle. If necessary, request that any out of town attendants arrive a day earlier to help you to prepare and celebrate a different night.
3) No Guidance. With no Director there are too many details left to too many people at your ceremony. Having a Wedding Coordinator allows for one person to coordinate your wedding party processional, music, minister, seating guests and to resolve any unexpected last minute complications. A Coordinator will ease the stress level of everyone, including you, tremendously on your wedding day. So if your location does not include a Wedding Day Coordinator who also directs your rehearsal, hire your own. A Wedding Coordinator may be much more affordable than you think.
2) Stretching yourself too thin. As the bride you will make everyone around you crazy by waiting until the last minute in planning and finalizing details. If you have a hard time planning and prioritizing on your own then get help. You don't want to be remembered as “one of those brides” that put everything off and then expected her friends and family to pick up the pieces, do you?
Do not commit yourself to social events the day before your wedding. This day is meant for you to wrap up loose ends, beautify yourself, attend your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner in many cases, and most importantly get some amount of rest for the day ahead. You are going to need it!
1) High demands. Try to keep in mind that although your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen may offer you extra help, these friends can become taken advantage of. The only "official obligations" of wedding party members are emotional support, the financial expense of wedding attire and travel, participation in the rehearsal and the obvious role on your wedding day. In the case of the MOH or BM, reception toasts are traditional as well. Other help that these individuals may offer should not be viewed as duties, but rather as acts of kindness including: setting up/tearing down, transporting ceremony goods, throwing a bridal shower or other party, distributing gratuities, and any other help that is offered.
Remember to be thoughtful towards your attendants. Bridesmaids may not be comfortable in 4 inch heels, purchasing new jewelry or paying to have their hair or makeup professionally styled. Do not forget to personally thank any bridal party members for taking part in your wedding, as well as family members who gave you assistance. A small thank you gift is always appreciated.
Article taken from a website!Labels: wedding mistakes
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Friday, November 28, 2008
Singapore Wedding Exhibition - February 2009
One big event holding at Singapore Expo from 20th to 22nd February 2009.
Here is the website: http://www.sgwedex.com.
Thanks Waterlily for sharing the information with us!Labels: wedding show
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Thursday, November 27, 2008
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Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Wedding Shows in 1st week of December 2008
Traders Hotel, Singapore Date: 6 December 2008 Saturday Time: 10.00am to 4.00pm Venue: Level 2 Price: Complimentary entry for UOB Cardmembers (Usual Price: $18) For bookings or enquiries, please email catering.ths@shangri-la.com or contact us at Tel: 6831 4319
Rendezvous Hotel, Singapore Date: 7 December 2008 Sunday Time: 11.00am to 4.00pm Venue: Straits Ballroom, Level 2 Pre-register for the Fair at S$30 nett per couple & Walk-in rate S$35 nett per couple For UOB cardmembers, enjoy a discounted rate of S$20 nett per couple For bookings or enquiries, please email banquetsales@rendezvous.com.sg or contact us at 6335 1788 / 6335 1780 / 6335 1720.Labels: wedding show
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Tuesday, November 25, 2008
About Copyrights
Dear All,
As you can see on my tagboard, the person who maintained "Wo Yao Jie Hun Le" blog said that my entry for "How to tie Wedding Band to the Ring Pillow" was copied from her website. Here I would like to clarify, Yes it is a copyright but these pictures were taken from other website until I realised this blog also has it. In the first place, I had never claimed that these photos or entry were taken by me. As for now, I decided to take the photos myself and all photos had been changed.
As I mentioned on the left hand corner, all informations comes from my research and experience, you will expect some copyrights from other websites. I will not know where it come from when everyone shared the same entry too. I, myself is a bride-to-be so I am here to compile and share all the informations with everyone just to help one another.
In future, please be advised to put a "copyright" word on your photos to avoid copyrights from other bloggers.
Thank you so much for your kind understanding!Labels: copyright
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Monday, November 24, 2008
Opinions: Photography & Videography
Meeting the photographers or videographers are quite tiring and need the patience to accommodate them. At least we managed to meet a few of them and got to know them better. Everyone of them had different characteristics so it was good to meet them up.
Our first meet-up with Motion Images:
My impression on their Video Express Highlight was too limited. Priscilla did not allow us to watch through the whole video process, instead she fast forward the gate-crashing part which we wanted to watch. Although we had seen the video online through their website, we expected to see better one but too bad, no opportunity to view the better one. So we were not interested in their videography package.
Both of us agreed that their photos were quite interesting due to the additional of the borders so we didn't find it boring. Too bad, I was not satisfied with their photo sharpness.
Although their packages were quite attractive (within our budget), we did not consider about it.
Our second meet-up with Mojo Ideas:
We had a tough time meeting with Jaze. We supposed to meet up on 29 February 2008 (Friday) at 6.30pm but he changed the timing to 7.30pm at last minute. I thought it was alright for us but my fiance could not make it. I really had a tough time arranging it. Then on 3 March 2008 (Monday), Jaze sent a message if we had arrived. I was shocked as I thought I was meeting him on 4 March 2008 (Tuesday). Well, he got mixed up with our appointment. Gosh, bad impression! What if he mixed up our wedding date?
His package was attractive which included photo montage, email invitation mailer, desktop wallpaper and video express highlight but we still felt that it was over our budget.
As for his character, he was quite inflexible in some ways because we felt that we had to follow his ways most of the time instead of following our ways. My fiance might afraid that we won't be able to fit his requirement as he had many of his own opinions.
After the discussion with my fiance, both of us agreed that the photos were not attractive plus his videos made us feel abit bored. *yawn* Definitely won't choose him unless we had no choice.
Our third meet-up with Fotowerke:
Celestine gave us a good impression because he allowed us to ask questions first before he showed us his portfolio. Quite amazingly that he could answer what we were trying to ask. From his character, we knew that he was a flexible guy who could accommodate to our timing. I seen many good comments on him through Singapore Brides Forum.
Firstly, he showed us his video express highlight which was quite entertaining. He mentioned that he did the videography service personally and he told us he could do the video express on time even if we had early solemnisation on that day. We were very happy to hear about that.
I loved his photographer's skill. I was quite amazed of the photos he showed us. I tried all ways to look at his photos to spot the sharpness but almost all the photos were very clear and special in some ways. I am very particular in choosing photography as I preferred perfectionist in photography skills and photo editing. So far this was the best album I had seen.
His packages were very attractive and it was within our budget. Worth to consider.
Our fourth meet-up with Big Day Studio:
Yow Siang was too good for us. His videography skill was strong and both of us liked his express highlight. Indeed very entertaining! Unfortunately, we could not take his package as it was very expensive. It really exceeded our budget, no matter how we combined photography package with his videography package. What I understand that he had increased his package to higher range.
Our fifth meet-up with Dreamcatcher Photography & Wow Media:
Ben was very good in photography. His photos were very similar to Fotowerke. Very sharp and clear. He was friendly and both of us did not know what to ask him because he had actually prepared FAQs for Brides and Grooms as reference.
Unfortunately, we could not take his package due to his partner, Daniel. His video was not that entertaining although acceptable. Although their package was within our budget, we would not bear to take Ben only. So we dropped the idea of getting his package.
Our sixth meet-up with Sundayz Photography:
Alex also had good skill in photography. His photos were very clear too. He also had contacts with videographer and had shown us a sample. We were fine with the work.
However both of us did not find the secure on him especially on the transportation. Most of the photographers we met, had their own transport. Our fear was when he take cab to bride's house and if along the way, met some traffic jam due to unforeseen circumstance, he could not do any back-up. I know it won't happen but most important is the security.
After all my opinions, hope it do help you. Have fun searching for photography & videography package.Labels: photography, videography
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Sunday, November 23, 2008
Nine Ways To Save Money On Wedding Photography
Weddings are memorable events for couples and their families who want to remember forever, and what better way to capture these moments than by a camera. Weddings may be gone, but the feeling of joy will always stay because of the wonderful moments captured on film. And photography expenses shouldn’t be too high if you want to have the nicest photos on your wedding day.
Here are some ideas to help you get started in producing great photos on a budget.
1) Hiring a professional photographer is the best option because he has the equipment, the experience, and the knowledge in this field. So look around in your area for professional photographers that suit your needs, and don’t charge too high.
2) If you choose the above option, do a lot of research on the price, the portfolio, and the over all behavior of the photographers you selected. Don’t just compare them on the price alone. Take note of his portfolio. Are the photos professional and outstanding? Observe his professionalism by asking his past clients (if you know one) on his punctuality and behavior. Did he come on time for their wedding? Were the arrangements made smoothly? Did they have any disagreements later on the price? Was he polite or bossy during the picture-taking? Asking questions not only about the quality of his work but also on his professionalism and personality will greatly determine your over-all satisfaction, and will ensure every dollar you pay him is worth it. You don’t want someone you hired to act grumpy and ruin your important day, do you?
3) Book as early as possible, say 6 months from your day. This way you won’t have to worry about the other clients who might also need him on the same day as your wedding.
4) Hire a photography student in a nearby university. He/she is more than willing to take on your assignment and unleash his/her creativity. As much as possible have a look at his/her works first, and observe his/her personality as well.
5) Gather your friends on your pre-wedding party and have him take photos of you.
6) Make an arrangement to keep the negatives to yourself afterwards so you can reprint them and edit them if you like. You can even use the pictures to make personalized thank you cards later that show the guests on the wedding.
7) Have your guests to take photos as many as they want by placing disposable cameras on the tables during your reception.
8) Have a talented family member take your photos. Nowadays because of digital cameras and photo editors, it is more possible than ever for an average person to take great pictures.
9) Ask for help from your friends who recently married. Advices from them will surely help you a lot because they’ve gone through what you are going through now. Ask for references, if they know of some photographers who fit your qualifications.
The first most important point to remember when setting a budget for your wedding photographer is to talk to your partner first, and determine your requirements early on and how many prints you want to make. Then seek for cost-effective alternatives. Do a lot of research, and compare your choices reasonably.
Article taken from a website!
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Saturday, November 22, 2008
Choosing an Actual Day Photographer
Start early
Good actual day wedding photographers are hard to come by and they are usually booked months or one year in advance. You can start searching by asking your friends for recommendation. You can also call up the photographers listed in Singapore Brides forum.
First of all, check out their online portfolio. If they don't have a website, arrange for an appointment with the photographers to view at their portfolio.
Things to look out
When you look at the photographer's portfolio, check the sharpness, colour tones and whether the photos were well-lit. See if you like the style of the photographer by looking at the photos of indoor, outdoor, tea ceremony, solemnisation and wedding banquet.
Years of experience
Five or more years of experience in wedding photography is best. An experienced photographer can even help advise you on your schedule and help you plan. However, an experienced photographer will usually cost more. Get a less experienced photographer if you are budget conscious and you also need to like the portfolio.
People skills
Talk to the photographer. It is important that he has good people skills as he'll be with you the whole day. He'll also be taking pictures of your friends, relatives and guests. You don't want to have an extra headache on your wedding day.
Work with the photographer As it is necessary to budget time for taking a variety of photos, discuss wedding coverage together to plan timings. Convey expectations clearly, whether you want a certain pose or more candid shots.
Know the package
There isn't a standard way of charging by the photographers. Photographer will charge you on the number of hours they work, number of photos taken on that day, number of photos to be printed, etc. Ask if you are unsure of the package.
Before you book the photographer
* Check the rate * Ask about the camera and lens * How is the digital photos developed? By professional labs? * Are all the soft copies be returned? * Are complimentary wedding albums provided and will the photos be arranged for you?Labels: photography
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Friday, November 21, 2008
Pre-wedding Photoshoot Locations
Here are the photoshoot locations for your reference:
Bedok Reservoir Park Boat Quay Botanic Garden Waterfall Bottle Tree Park @ Yishun Central Fire Station Changi Airport Changi Boardwalk Changi Yacht Club Chinese Temple @ Telok Ayer Clarke Quay Dempsey Hill East Coast Park Esplanade Park Fort Canning Park Fullerton Hotel Henderson Waves Hort Park Jalan Sultan shophouses Kent Ridge Park Labrador Park MacRitchie Reservoir Park Mandai Orchids Garden Marina @ Keppel Bay Marina Barrage Marina South Pier Merlion Park Millenia Walk Mount Faber Park Mount Sophia National Museum Peirce Reservoir Park (Lower & Upper) Portsdown Area for colonial houses, eg Colbar Pulau Ubin Punggol's End Punggol Lalang Field Quarry @ Bukit Timah Nature Reserve Red Dot Traffic Rochester Park Sentosa Beach Sentosa Cove Seletar Reservoir Park (Upper) Singapore Art Museum Singapore Botanic Gardens Singapore Flyer Singapore Zoo Spottiswoode Park St Teresa Church Stadium Waterfront Tanah Merah Tanjong Pagar Train Station Villa BaliLabels: bridal studio, pre-wedding photoshoot
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How Do You Choose a Wedding Photographer?
There are several things you need to look for with the most important being the quality of the work. It would be great if you could find a photographer that you had seen in action, perhaps at a family member or friend’s wedding.
The hardest part of choosing a wedding photographer is when you sign a contract and agree to pay before you have ever seen the photos. That’s how it works in the world of wedding photography; you must make your decision based on the faith in the photographer.
First, you are need to look for referrals. Ask your friends, family members or Singapore Brides forum who did their weddings and start compiling a list. You need to verify if these people are still doing wedding photography. Ask everyone about their wedding and their wedding pictures. Most people will even let you see their wedding photos and you can check out the photographer’s work.
Aside from samples from people you know, you can ask the photographer personally about his experience. You can call the photographers on your list and do an interview over the phone or make an appointment to meet them personally. This is your chance to ask the photographer any questions you may have such as their experience, what training they have, how well they can work with others and what different types of photography they have studied. If you are doing interview personally, the photographer can show you portfolios of their work at the same time. It is highly recommended to meet photographer personally as you get to understand them.
When you chose the photographer you think you want to use, you will have to schedule several appointments. The bride and groom, the bride’s parents and anyone else who may be taking part in paying for the wedding, should be present at these meetings regarding the wedding photography.
At these meetings, you will discuss about price, payment schedule and possible deposits. Next you will discuss the plan for taking the photos. Many people also get video and digital photographs now. Do you want these? Will your photographer be able to provide these? Will there be extra fees?
Many people have specific plans as to what they want pictures of (e.g. bride and father coming down the aisle, bride and groom, rings exchanging, the kiss, the bridesmaids, etc.) This is your chance to get all this written down so that the photographer is sure to get all the shots you want. Other people give their photographers a little more freedom to decide what pictures will be good to take.
Be sure to ask any questions you have about this important event. Your wedding photography is important to you so don’t hesitate to be clear about what you want.Labels: photography
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Thursday, November 20, 2008
Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
Your wedding vows are the words that will forever remain in your partner's heart and memory. So you want to ensure that you express exactly what you are feeling and how much you love him/her. Most people have never written wedding vows before and they aren't quite sure how to communicate what they feel into words.
Here are some helpful guidelines to ensure that the feelings in your heart are encompassed in your wedding vows:
1) Sit down with your fiancée and put some general expectations in place for your wedding vows - such as how long and how in-depth they should be.
2) Begin brainstorming. Think about your relationship and everything you've gone through together. Focus, perhaps, on a specific situation such as the moment when you realized that this was the person you were meant to be with.
3) If you use nicknames or lovable expressions with your fiancée (honey or sweetheart) you may want to incorporate these into your wedding vows.
4) If tradition is important to you, review some examples of conventional wedding vows. Most begin with "in the name of God, I (your name) take you (your fiancée's name) to be my lawfully wedded wife/husband." You may consider reciting your vows in a similar manner.
5) Avoid sad memories or stories about you and your partner fighting. Wedding vows are meant to express the joys of being together. Therefore you should focus on the positive.
6) Once you've jotted down your ideas, you'll want to express them in a smooth and flowing manner. You may want to start with past memories and work your way to the present instead of jumping randomly from topic to topic, as this will give the impression that you took little time to prepare your vows.
7) Incorporate common expressions of love such as "I love you" or "I can't live without you".
8) Once you have completed your vows be sure to read them over 2 or 3 times to ensure that they convey exactly what you want your partner to know. You might want to have a friend, family member or your wedding officiant to read them to ensure that they are appropriate and meaningful.
It's important to personalize your wedding vows and make them unique to you and your fiancée. Wedding vows are meant to convey your feelings of love. They explain why you're choosing to spend the rest of your life with your partner. Regardless of what you write, your partner loves you and is going to cherish your wedding vows as long as they come from the heart.
Article taken from a website!
Labels: wedding vow
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Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Wedding gown styles & shapes
Looking for that perfect wedding gown for the big day? Let us help you by explaining the basic styles and shapes you can expect to find:
Types of Wedding Gowns:
 Ball Gown / Full Skirt - Ball gown type dresses are recommended for the following body types: Full figured, pear shaped, and thin. - This style may also be considered for some people who are petite or have a hour glass figure.
 Empire Waist - Empire waist gowns are recommended for women who are petite or do not have a defined waistline. They may also be considered for women with an inverted pear shaped body. - This style is not recommended for women with hour glass figures.
 A-Line / Princess - A-line gowns are recommended for the most body types except for women who do not have a defined waistline. While neither the A-line nor Princess has a defined waistline, the Princess style does have noticeable vertical panels.
 Sheath - Sheath style gown are recommended for thin figured or petit framed women. They may also be considered for some women with a hour glass figure shaped body. - This style is not recommended for women who are thick or short waisted, full figured, or have a pear shaped body type.
 Mermaid - Mermaid style gowns are recommended for woman with a figure that they want to show off. - This style is not recommended for women who are petite, thick or short waisted, or have an inverted pear shaped body type.
Types of Necklines:
 Jewel - Suggested for women with a smaller chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger chests.
 Scoop - Works with most figures.
 Square - Works with most figures.
 V-Neck - Suggested for women with a medium sized chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger or smaller then average size chest.
 Bateau - Suggested for women with a smaller chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger chests.
 Sabrina - Suggested for women with a smaller chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger chests.
 Spagetti Straps - Suggested for women with small to average sized chest. - Should be avoided by full figured women or narrow shoulders.
 Queen Anne - Works with most figures.
 Off the Shoulder - Suggested for women with a hourglass figure or a pear shaped figure. - Should be avoided by women with thin figures, fuller arms or broad shoulders.
 Portrait - Suggested for women who are short-waisted or women with fuller arms. - Should be avoided by women with undefined collarbones or broad shoulders.
 Sweetheart - Suggested for women with a hourglass figure or women with larger chests.
 Strapless - Suggested for women who are full figured, petite, or have a hourglass figure. - Should be avoided by women with smaller chests.
 High - Suggested for women who are petite or want a dress that has a lengthening effect. - Should be avoided by women who are taller, have pear shaped figures, or narrow shoulders.
 Halter - Suggested for short-waisted women or women with broad shoulders. - Should be avoided by women with thin figures or narrow shoulders.
Types of Waistlines:
 Natural - Works with most body types. Suggested for women who are petite.
 Drop - Suggested for women with a hourglass figure, larger breasts, or have a slim figure. - Should be avoided by women with a boxy figure.
 Basque - Suggested for women who want a bodice that has a slenderizing effect; however. - Should be avoided by women who are petite or have an undefined waist.
 Empire - Suggested for women with an undefined waist, have larger hips, or are shorter. - Should be avoided by women with a hourglass figure.
Types of Sleeves:
There are many different types of sleeve types. Below is a list on the most popular: - Sleeveless: No sleeves. - Cap: Just covering the shoulders. - Short sleeve: Falls between shoulder & elbow like a t-shirt. - 3/4 sleeve: Falls between elbow & wrist. - Fitted: Fitted long sleeve. - Fitted Point: Fitted long sleeve coming to a point over the hand. - Pouf: Short, full, gathered sleeve. May be on or off the shoulder. - Juliet: Long sleeve with puffy shoulders. - Bell: Long sleeve, narrow on top and flared towards the wrist. - Poet: Long sleeve, fitted from shoulder to elbow then flared.
Types of Trains:
- Sweep: 8" to 12" - Court: about 3 feet from the waist. - Chaple: approx. 4 feet from the waist. - Cathedral: approx 6 to 9 feet from the waist. - Royal: 3 or more yards from the waist.
Types of Veils:
- Birdcage: Falls just below the chin & usually attached to a hat. - Flyaway: Ends at the shoulder. - Blusher: Worn over your face and is approx. 28" long. - Elbow Length: Ends at the elbow or waist. - Fingertip: Ends at the finger tips or just below the waist. - Ballet Ends at the ankles. - Chapel: Extends to the floor. - Cathedral: 9+ feet.
Article taken from a website!Labels: wedding gown
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Getting Ready for Pre-wedding Photoshoot
BEFORE THE PHOTOSHOOT
The Gown and the Suit
Make sure all bride’s gowns are altered and ready. Groom’s suits should be selected too. If there is any need for ethnic costumes like Kua, check if they have your size and remind them to reserve it for you on your photoshoot day.
The accessories and props
Prepare any accessories (e.g. ties, scarfs, shoes) or personal props (e.g. balloons, soft toys) you might wish to use on that day.
Locations vs Weather
Discuss with your photographer which locations you would like to go. You may also ask what they would do in case of contingencies (for example, rainy weather)
Ask your bridal coordinator what you need to bring on the actual day (besides the items below, they might have other requests).
The beauty
- Try to sleep early to prevent dark eye circles. - Exercise as usual, but try not to get obvious tan lines that may show in your photos (although these can most probably be solved by photoshop). - Maintain your facial and body regime. You can probably go for a facial or a body scrub a week before. Put on DIY face masks the last few days to keep your complexion radiant. Do not attempt to try new facial products at this time in case of breakouts! - A manicure might be necessary as your photographer might take close-up shots of your hands with your wedding rings. This is best done one day before your photoshoot.
At Least One Week Before
List of Things to Prepare: Groom
- A few colour, long sleeve shirts. In different colours or styles for the groom to change into. - A few ties - A pair of black pants and/or white pants - A pair of black formal shoes and black socks (white for Groom wearing a white suit) - Cufflinks - Dye or trim hair - Do facial care - Extra pair of frame (without lens) if need - Send Wedding Bands for polishing
List of Things to Prepare: Bride
- Shoes to match actual wedding gown, evening gown, outdoor gown and/or traditional chinese costume - Fitting of Gowns and alteration if required - Do facial care - A pair of skin-colour stockings, just in case - Order Bridal Bouquet if not provided by bridal studio or makeup artist - Dye or trim hair
One Day Before
- Check above items all prepared - Buy fresh flowers (baby's breath, caspier, freesia, roses etc) to be used as hair accessories if you want - Ensure delivery of Bridal Bouquet - Prepare casual wear if interested - Remove unsightly facial or body hair - Go for manicure and pedicure - Wash hair and make sure hair is dry before sleeping - Do not apply any hair cream/gel/mousse - Sleep early
In the Morning of Photoshoot
- Do not wash hair or apply any hair cream/gel/mousse on hair - Have a good breakfast - Bring Wedding Bands, Bridal Bouquet, fresh flowers for hair - Bring all required clothings - Bring any special accessories that you want to wear - Bride to wear a spaghetti top, a tube top, a top with front buttons or bring along a bathrobe - Bring any meaningful toys or items that you want to take photos with - Bring Bottled water for both of you (include a straw for your convenience) - Bring Light snacks that are easy to munch (in case you are hungry during outdoor photoshoot) - Bring Tissue paper - Bring Wet tissue (this comes in handy when you have to go barefoot at places like the beach) - Bring Blotting paper (for blotting shiny spots) - Bring a Mirror - Your make-up pouch (lipstick, lipgloss, compact powder, spray on mist and any others) - Umbrella (in case it rains suddenly) - Insect repellant (if you are going to forested areas, beaches, parks) - Any other accessories, if required.
OTHER THINGS TO NOTE ON THAT DAY
- Wear a button-down or spaghetti top, so that it is easier for you to change into your gown after make-up. - Do not bring too many valuables with you. - Communicate with your make-up artist on the make-up style and hairdos for each gown.
Most importantly, remember to SMILE!!! The first few times, it may seem awkward in front of the camera, but gradually you will warm up to it. A good photographer will know how to help you relax and capture your most natural shot at the right time!Labels: bridal studio, pre-wedding photoshoot
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Tuesday, November 18, 2008
How to tie Wedding Band to the Ring Pillow
Most of the ring pillows come with 2 thin ribbons which can secure the wedding band on each side.
To secure the Wedding Bands to the Ring Pillow, form a loop with one of the ribbons first.
Then place one wedding band over the loop.
Tie a knot around the ribbon loop with the free end of the same ribbon.
Pull both the loop and free end to tighten the knot. Adjust and position the wedding band to your preferred position.
Repeat the same steps for securing the other wedding band using the other ribbon.
Now you can position your wedding band flatly on the pillow before your moment of marriage vows start.
To remove the Wedding Band from the Ring Pillow, use one hand to pull the wedding band and at the same time, use the other hand to support the pillow. Slowly the knot will automatically be released.
Photos taken courteousy by Main Blogger, Cheekrene.Labels: ring pillow
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Ideas on Wedding Vows from Website
Wedding Vows #1
I, ....., take thee, ..... to be my wedded wife/husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for richer, for poorer in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance and there to I pledge thee my faith.
Wedding Vows #2
I take you, ....., to be my wife/husband, from this day forward to join with you and share all that is to come, I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us.
Wedding Vows #3
....., I take you to be my wife/husband, to laugh with you in joy, to grieve with you in sorrow, to grow with you in love serving mankind in peace and hope, as long as we both shall live.
Wedding Vows #4
I, ....., choose you, ....., in the presence of our friends and families, to be my wife/husband and partner from this time forward; to love you, to be a comfort and safe haven in your life, to hold you close, to listen deeply when you speak, to nourish you with my gentleness, to uphold you with my strength, to weigh the effects of the words I speak and the things I do, to never take you for granted, and to always give thanks for the presence in my life.
Wedding Vows #5
Dearest ....., I choose you to be my wife/husband, to be by each other's side through our life's journey together. You are my best friend. You are my precious love. You are the one I choose to spend my life with. I promise to cherish you, to honour you, to love and respect you. I promise to comfort and encourage you, when we are healthy and when we must endure sickness; when we are filled with joys of success and when we are burdened with sorrows. ....., I promise to love you without condition for all the days of my life.
Wedding Vows #6
I, ....., choose you, ....., as my wife/husband. I will love you tenderly, I will laugh with you and cry with you through the trials and triumphs to come. ....., I stand before our families and friends as your lifelong partner.
Wedding Vows #7
I, ....., choose you, ....., as my life partner. I am so glad that I waited for my dreams to come true by finding you. I am so blessed that I get to be your partner and am comforted to know that I have chosen wisely. Whatever life has in store for us, I will honor and respect our marriage and be by your side, loving you through it all the wife/husband of your dreams. ....., I will love you forever.
Wedding Vows #8
As your wife/husband, I am blessed to receive your love, I will honor you with my caring, sensitivity, strength and gentleness. I will be kind and honest, fair and true. May God always keep us and watch over our love and our home.
Wedding Vows #9
....., each of us has had quite a journey in our lives so far. I feel so blessed to have found you as my partner. I love you, and I am choosing to share all of life's blessings, challenges, joys, and sorrows with you. As your husband/wife, I promise to nurture you, to be kind and patient, forgiving and faithful. I promise to honor our differences and to learn from them. I will encourage you and stand by you in our life together, and will grow with you in the shelter of our love. I promise you this with my heart and soul. I vow to you before our families and friends, to dedicate myself to our marriage, our friendship and our love.
Wedding Vow #10
....., I love you and choose to share my life with you. I will laugh with you in times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow. I will be at your side through all of life's challenges. ....., I will love you forever.
Wedding Vows#11
....., I promise to love you, to cherish you, and to respect you in all ways, always. I promise to participate fully in our marriage partnership. I will give fully of my mind,body,heart and soul. I promise to make your plans and dreams as important to me as my own. I promise to do my share so that our lives together can be healthy, happy and abundantly satisfying. I promise to lovingly fulfill these vows each and everyday for all of my days.
Wedding Vows #12
I, ....., promise to always keep my love for you alive and out in front of all I do. I promise to be faithful and true no matter what challenges may come in our way. I promise to nurture you as my wife/husband, my lover and my best friend. I will continue to love you and cherish you, walking through this life together, hand in hand.
Wedding Vows #13
I, ....., receive you, ....., as my wife/husband. May we love one another with constancy, live joyously, laugh freely, and support our marriage though the trials and triumphs to come. I will strive to be fair and honest, wise and true. Join me in making our hopes and dreams come true today and forever.
Wedding Vows #14
....., the moment I first met you, I knew deep within my heart that I love you. Now that our love has stood the test of time, I know that I want to spend my life with you. I honor you, ..... . I cherish your spirit and am so grateful for all the ways you share your beautiful love with me each and every day. I will always be true to you, ..... , while remaining true to myself. I will nurture you with tender loving care and always be by your side whenever you need or want me. I am so blessed, Knowing that I get to spend my life with you singing,dancing,laughing and crying. And that we will raise a family together with all the joy, passion, gratitude and love that we are so fortunate to share.
Wedding Vow #15
I, ....., take you ....., to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.
Wedding Vow #16
I ....., take you, ....., to be my husband/wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.
Wedding Vow #17
I, ....., take you, ....., to be my friend, my lover, the (mother/father) of my children and my husband/wife. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and stay with you, for all eternity.
Wedding Vow #18
I, ....., choose you, ....., to be my husband/wife, to respect you in your successes and in your failures, to care for you in sickness and in health, to nurture you, and to grow with you throughout the seasons of life.
Wedding Vow #19
I, ....., take you, ....., to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the man/woman you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.
Wedding Vow #20
I, ....., promise to love and care for you and I will try in every way to be worthy of your love. I will always be honest with you, kind, patient, and forgiving. But most of all, I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you. I love you.
Wedding Vow #21
I, ....., take you, ....., to be my wife/husband, to share the good times and hard times side by side. I humbly give you my hand and my heart as I pledge my faith and love to you. Just as this ring I give you today is a circle without end, my love for you is eternal. Just as it is made of incorruptible substance, my commitment to you will never fail. With this ring, I thee wed."
Wedding Vow #22
....., do you pledge to love ....., and throughout your years together to be honest, faithful, and kind to her/him? Do you pledge to give to her/him the same happiness she/he gives to you, and to respect her for who she is, not who you want her to be? (each responds, "I do.")
Wedding Vow #23
....., with all my love, I take you to be my wife/husband. I will love you through good and the bad, through joy and the sorrow. I will try to be understanding, and to trust in you completely. Together we will face all of life's experiences and share one another's dreams and goals. I promise I will be your equal partner in an loving, honest relationship, for as long as we both shall live.
Wedding Vow #24
I, ....., promise to love you, to be your best friend, to respect and support you, to be patient with you, to work together with you to achieve our goals, to accept you unconditionally, and to share life with you throughout the years.
Wedding Vow #25
I, ....., take you to be my wife/husband from this time onward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to be your faithful husband/wife, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond; a commitment made in love, kept in faith, and eternally made new.Labels: wedding vow
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Marriage Vows and Ring Exchanging (English Version)
The following marriage vows are used at the Registry of Marriages (ROM). Couples may want to adapt it to suit their requirements.
Solemniser's Address:
Before you are joined in matrimony, it is my duty to remind you of the solemn and binding character of the vows you are about to make. Marriage according to law is the union of one man and one woman, voluntarily entered into for life, to the exclusion of all others.
Do I understand that you __________ and you __________ are here of your own free will for the purpose of becoming man and wife?
Couple answer together: Yes
Solemniser To Bridegroom:
Will you, __________ take this woman __________ to be your wedded wife, to live together in the legal estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to her, so long as you both shall live?
Bridegroom's Answer: I will
Solemniser To Bride:
Will you, __________ take this man __________ to be your wedded husband, to live together in the legal estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to him, so long as you both shall live?
Bride's Answer: I will
Solemniser's Instructions:
Take this ring and put it upon the fourth finger of his/her left hand and repeat after me: In token and pledge of our constant faith and abiding love, with this ring I marry you.
Soleminiser's Pronouncement:
As both of you have given your consent before me to live together in matrimony and have solemnly promised, each to the other to do so, I now pronounce you two Man and Wife.Labels: wedding vow
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Monday, November 17, 2008
Registering Your Marriage
Age Requirements * 21 years and above. * For person aged between 18 and 21 years, the applicant will require the parents consent to marry. Both parents and two witnesses above 21 years old with NRICs/passport must also be present during the solemnisation of marriage. * For person under the age of 18, the applicant will be required to apply for a special marriage license.
Other Requirements * For marriage between a Singaporean/Permanent Resident (PR) and a foreigner: -If the foreigner is a work-permit holder, prior approval must be obtained from the Controller of Work Permits, check with Ministry of Manpower. * For marriage between foreigners: - One of the applicant must have stayed in Singapore continuously for at least 15 days before the date of the Notice of Marriage.
Procedure * Apply for the Notice of Marriage at www.rom.gov.sg or web kiosks at ROM. * You can also choose to e-file your Notice of Marriage. * It has to be applied at least 21 days and up to 3 months before the date of solemnisation (wedding date).
Documents to prepare for electronic filing of notice of marriage * For Applicants 1) Singaporean - NRIC or - Birth Certificate 2) Permanent Resident - NRIC or - Birth Certificate - Re-entry permit 3) Foreigners - NRIC or - Birth Certificate - Passport * For Divorcee: Original or certified true copy of the Decree Nisi Absolute will also be required. * For Widowed Person: Death Certificate of late spouse.
Witnesses (2 Persons) * Full name as appeared on NRICs or passports * NRICs or Passport numbers
Solemnisation Details * Date & Time * Venue (full address as this will appear on your marriage certificate) * Solemniser's name & license number * Solemniser's consent
Marriage Fees * Acceptable mode of payment is Credit Card.
Other advice * As the choice date for solemnisation of marriages may not be available as it had been fully-booked by others, it is advisable to choose alternative dates before you file for your notice of marriage. * It is advisable to shop for your wedding rings at least 6 weeks before your wedding date. This will ensure that the jeweler has ample time to re-order the rings that you want, if they were out of stock. * Etiquette towards the Solemniser. - Language preference for solemnisation - Requirement(s) such as meeting up and/or pre-marriage preparation - Invite your Solemniser personally (third party such as a relative or wedding planner is not entertained)
Note that your Solemniser sacrifices personal time and efforts when he/she accepts your invitation to grace your joyous occasion as Guest-of-Honour. As a gesture of appreciation, please ensure that he/she is warmly received, entertained, and reimbursed for transport to and from your wedding venue.
Registry of Marriages 7, Canning Rise Singapore 179869 Tel (info): 6338-9987 Tel (main): 6338-7808 Fax : 65-6339 3328
Operating Hours: 1) Mondays to Fridays - 8.30 am - 12.30 noon - 2.30 pm - 4.30 pm 2) Saturdays - 8.00 am - 12 noon 3) Sundays and Public Holidays - ClosedLabels: ROM
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Guide for solemnisation
Before taking vows and exchange rings to become man and wife, you have to ensure the following list:
1) Decide the date, time and venue for your solemnisation, either at ROM or outside ROM.
2) To hold your solemnisation outside ROM, you need to get a Solemniser. Click this website for the list. It is best to meet up with your Solemniser to obtain a consent form and license number.
3) Next, E-file at the ROM website. Take note of the earliest and latest date you have to e-file! The solemnisation can only take place after 21 days of e-file and within 3 months of e-file.
4) Get ready the following documents before you e-file: * Names and I/C number of Bride-to-be and Groom-to-be * Names and I/C number of your two witnesses (they must be at least 21 years old and above) * Solemniser's license number (For solemnisation outside ROM) * Date, time, address of solemnisation location (For solemnisation outside ROM) * Credit card for payment * Make sure your printer has sufficient ink to print out the confirmation notice and important instructions you have to take note of.
5) Once done with e-file, take note of the date and time BOTH of you have to go down to ROM for Verification and Statutory Declarations. Following documents to bring are: * Original I/C of Bride-to-be and Groom-to-be * Photocopies of your two witnesses' I/C * Solemniser's consent form (For solemnisation outside ROM)
6) You will receive the following (For solemnisation outside ROM): * A copy of the Certificate of Marriage * A duplicated copy of the Certificate of Marriage (For Bride, Groom, Witnesses and Solemniser to sign on the solemnisation day) * A return envelope
7) Remember to buy your wedding band before your BIG DAY!Labels: ROM
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Sunday, November 16, 2008
Bridal Studio Package Checklist
What are the things you have to ask or look out for in your bridal package? This was compiled by one of the brides-to-be in Multiply account and I amended some of her lists based on my knowledge and experience. Hope it will clear your doubts.
CLOTHES * Tea-dress / Kua * ROM gown * Wedding gown - Can be the choice of Off-The-Rack (OTR) or Made-To-Measure (MTM) * Evening gown - Either OTR or MTM * Men's suit - Either OTR or MTM, how many? * Men's pants - Must be MTM, how many? Can it be kept? * Sister's gown * Fathers' coats for 2 * Usage of bridal accessories (free or rental). How many sets? * Restrictions in choosing the gowns or choose any gown in the shop * Actual day gown to be different from Photo-shoot gown? * Can keep the gowns? * Need to top up extra for more embroidery or lace? * Try the gown before signing the package?
MAKE-UP * Trial make-up - is it before photo-shoot or before actual wedding day? * Make-up for Photo-shoot on bride, how about groom? * Two make-up for the actual wedding day (Both morning and night) * Additional cost besides ampoule & false eyelashes * Transport cost for make-up artist * Additional cost if need to reach at 4am or 6am? Evening, any time? * Is it same make-up artist for Photo-shoot & Actual day? * Any additional cost for ROM make-up?
HAIR STYLE * Any charges for hair setting? * Any real flowers on hair? * Does make-up artist do hair styles?
FLOWERS * Hand bouquet for both indoor and outdoor photo-shoot (preferably real flowers) * Hand bouquet for the actual wedding day * 6 corsages (4 for both parents and 2 for groom) * Wrist corsages for sisters
BRIDAL CAR * Chauffeur provided? * Petrol provided? * Brand/model? * If downgrade to lower brand/model, can reduce cost? * If opt out the car, can reduce cost or exchange for more photos? * Bridal car decoration * Sets of ribbons for accompanying cars * If not using bridal car from bridal studio (BS), will BS advise or help us on the car decoration?
PHOTOGRAPHY * Any chances to meet up with photographer to understand each other's styles before photo-shoot? * Any flexibility to use own preferred photographer? * How many outfits for pre-wedding photo-shoot? * Studio Photography: How many changes in hair style and make-up? * Studio Photography: Polaroid before every change in style? * Outdoor photography - usually 2 locations * Outdoor photography: transport provided? * Outdoor photography: numbers of followers? * Outdoor photography: if rain? Additional cost? Any flexibility to change to another day? * If spread over 2 days for indoor and outdoor, any additional cost? * Able to get back selected and unselected RAW photos? When?
ALBUM * Numbers of photos or poses? - Most package give at least 24 pieces and upon bargain, top up to 30 * Cost of photo for top up ($65-$95) * Customise package for top-up photos * Any free 2R or 4R photos for give aways? How many? * Photo album size (12” x 15’ or 15’ x 20”) * If separate to 1 indoor album and 1 outdoor album, any additional cost? * Mini album with all photos included * Digital effect or normal * Touch up of photos * One portrait size photo (inclusive of framing) or 3 photos in one frame * One table top photo - if possible, bargain for more
ACTUAL DAY PHOTOGRAPHER * Is it provided? * Who’s the photographer? Same as my photo-shoot photographer? * Number of free rolls * Able to give me unlimited shots in CD Rom? * Any additional costs for photographer, eg transport costs & additional costs if needs to be there at 4am or 6am?
ADDITIONAL STUFFS * Guest book * Any free anniversary shots & for how long? If there is, how many free pieces are you entitled? And how much per top up piece?
PAYMENT * Deposit * Gown confirmation * Studio Day * Album Collection * Top-up photos - full payment upon confirmation of photos selection?
What to look out for when choosing a bridal package? * Consider the package price, design, workmanship, service and photography style.
Do not choose a package solely on price factor * Choose your package carefully. If not, you may end up paying more when you are not satisfied with the one you chose and had to switch to another bridal shop. * Some bridal shop can offer cheaper packages because cheaper materials are used in making the wedding gown and suit. * Some limit their in-house photographer on the number of film used when taking photos. * Remember to ask for the price of extra photos before you make your decision. Some bridal shop charge higher than others on the extra photos for the album.
Design, Workmanship and Quality * Look at the designs of the gowns, feel the material and check the workmanship on the gowns. * Looking at the laces on the gowns, some shops don't tidy up the laces resulting in poor finishing.
Photography style * 2 main photography style: the classical or the contemporary style * The classical style is otherwise known as the "Taiwanese" style. The two styles can have very different results on a couple. * Request to look at customers' photos instead of model shoot. Some shops employ outside photographers to shoot their sample portfolio and these photographers most likely do not take your wedding photos. * Some shops have more than one in-house photographer. If you have identified a photographer that you like, request for that photographer to shoot your studio and outdoor photos.
I hope the above lists will be able to help you to take note or bargain for good deal in bridal package. Most importantly, you must win the trust and build up the relationship with the coordinator or else it will be difficult to bargain for more stuffs till your wedding day. Last but not least, both of you must feel comfortable with the person you are going to work with till your wedding.
So have fun!Labels: bridal package, checklist
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Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Bridal Packages Essentials
With so many bridal studios to choose from, one does get overwhelmed with the bridal package that bridal studios offer. Before signing up for the package, it is recommended that both the bride and groom shall visit various studios to look at the wedding gowns and their final products. The final product is often the wedding album.
Important Questions:
Clothes * Do I need coats for the fathers? * Can I rent coats for own brothers? * Do I need a ROM or tea dress? * Do I want my bridesmaids to wear the same clothes? * How many sets of wedding gowns do I want? * Gowns and Suits (for Photography and Actual Day) * 1 Wedding gown * 1 Evening gown * 1 Tea Dress/Kua * Groom’s suit * Check if gowns are Off-The-Rack(OTR) or Made-To-Measure(MTM) * Ask for rental cost of additional gowns or coats
Make-up & Hair Styling * 1 Trial make up * 1 Make-up for Photoshoot * 1 Actual Day make-up (Morning) * 1 Actual Day make-up (Evening) * Check if trial makeup can be used for ROM * How many hair styles for photoshoot? * Ask if there is any additional costs for ampoules and hair setting
Flowers * Bouquet for Photoshoot * Bouquet for Actual Day * Corsages (For Groom and both parents) * Check if bouquets are fake flowers or fresh flowers
Bridal Car * Rental of Bridal car with chauffeur and petrol provided * Decoration for Bridal Car * Check if extra sets of ribbons for accompanying cars are included
Bridal Accessories * At least two sets (Tiara, Necklace, Earrings)
Photography * Studio Photography - Check if rental of studio is included * Do I want special effects on the photos? * Do I want a lot of outdoor shoots? * Do I want a lot of photos? * Outdoor Photography (usually 2 locations) - any extra charges for additional location * Ask if I need to provide transport for photographer(s) * An album should have at least 24 pieces of photos * Check if bargain on more photos whenever possible * The type and size of album * Whether digital enhancement is included * Ask about cost per additional page or photo * Cost for digital enhancement * Whether cost is for one page or one photo (in case of multiple photos on a page) * Whether can keep all the sample photos/negatives/soft copies * CD-Rom of all the photos selected for the album * Portrait size photo with frame * Table top photo * Any 2R or 4R giveaways photos
Other things to check or ask * Design, Workmanship and Quality of gowns * Validity period for package * Choosing of makeup artist * Choosing of photographer * Photography style * Additional deposit * Period to return gown/coat * Fixed bridal coordinatorLabels: bridal package, checklist
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Sunday, November 9, 2008
Representation of dowry
Baby’s bath: A sure indication that the bride wants to care for babies.
Lamps: They give light that spreads out good fortune and many children. Fueling and caring for the lamp mean more children. It's always a must to buy in a pair for lamps.
Washbowl: For the bride to wash her mother-in-law and father-in-law as a sign of respect.
Child’s bucket: Though it looks like a spittoon, it’s just a pot that has two oranges placed inside and is then covered with red paper. A male child in the bride’s new family is then invited to tear the paper, eat the fruit and pee in the pot meaning a prayer for male children.
Ruler: The bride and groom are ready to act as adults now meaning a symbol that they will always measure the consequences of what they do.
Towels, toothpaste, toothbrushes, pairs of slippers: Two of each because everything in a new home needs to be new. For the bride and for the groom, the slippers come with small silver coins to bring good fortune. (The slippers used to be clogs, “but young people don’t know how to walk in clogs nowadays!”)
A tea set: For the bride to serve tea to the parents. The tea set traditionally has cups with handles = ears = a daughter-in-law who will listen to her elders and betters.
Plus a special box containing: - All sorts of beans = the start of a garden = growth and good fortune. - Pin cushion decorated by many boys meaning you will be blessed with many boys - Box of coloured threads + black + white meaning a life full of colour “until your hair turns from black to white.” - A measuring tape meaning you will always be measuring yourself for new clothes = a life of plenty. - A pair of scissors meaning you will always be cutting cloth to make new clothes = a life of plenty.Labels: tradition
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Chinese Wedding Customs
Chinese wedding traditions are as varied and complex. During the centuries of ethnic Chinese migration throughout Asia, traditions have evolved and changed due to a myriad of regional and cultural influences. The traditions discussed here offer a preliminary overview for couples who wish to include elements of their Chinese heritage in their wedding plans.
Chinese Wedding Customs, Pre-wedding Day
Selecting an auspicious date (看日子)
It is customary for a Chinese couple to consult a fortune-teller or feng shui master to select an auspicious wedding date. Using the Chinese calendar, the date best suited for the couple is based on their birth dates and Chinese zodiac signs. It’s considered good luck to marry on an even day and month of the year.
There are many factors that will have to be taken into consideration when choosing a wedding date. The seventh lunar month of the Chinese calendar is usually considered inauspicious. Traditionally, that is the time of the Hungry Ghost Festival, making it a less desirable time for a wedding.
After the selection of the wedding day, wedding details such as the types and quantities of betrothal gifts, bride’s price (聘金) and number of tables at the wedding banquet provided by the groom’s parents for the bride’s parents guests are agreed.
The Betrothal (过大礼/纳彩)
Because traditions are ever-changing, betrothal ceremonies ranged from a formal proposal letter to gift exchange. This gesture has a meaning to prove the sincerity towards the marriage between the binding of two families and the promises of taking care of the bride. Here are a few of the most practiced rituals.
Up to a month or at least three days before the wedding day, the groom’s family would present betrothal gifts to the bride’s family. The gifts include: Western and Chinese wedding cakes, peanut candies, two bottles of brandy, pig trotters (which is now being replaced by tin canned ones), even number of oranges, two pairs of dragon and phoenix candles (龙凤烛), jewellery from the groom’s parents to the bride such as the dragon and phoenix bangles (琢) or four items of gold (四点金). Some would also include the bride’s price with the betrothal gifts while others prefer to present it when the groom fetches the bride.
In exchange, the bride’s family will replace the 2 bottles of brandy with 2 bottles of orange syrup, even numbered portion of all the other gifts and 2 phoenix candles. The bride’s family will light the 2 dragon candles and the groom’s family the phoenix candles on the morning of the wedding day.
Some Hokkien families will also request for a bunch of bananas and red dates to be included in the gifts, a red packet for the groom’s parents to buy shoes is also required. The bride will also present towels to the parents, grandparents, aunt, uncles, and groom’s siblings.
The gifts from the groom’s family acknowledged the bride’s parents’ efforts in raising the girl. By accepting these gifts, the bride’s family pledged her to the groom’s family.
After the betrothal, the Chinese wedding invitations are distributed.
The bride’s dowry (送嫁妆)
Dowry is a blessing from the bride's parents to their own daughter and future son in-law, it also symbolises that their precious daughter has grown up and ready to fullfill the role of someboby's wife. This procedure is done on an ausipious date chosen by a professional Feng Shui consultant before the wedding day.Dowry is a process where the bride's parents will buy items like bedsheet, baby prosperity set, toiletries like mug, toothbrush and toothpaste for the wedding couple to start a blessful marriage together. The individual items has a special meaning behind. All of them are blessing to the couples for a everlasting marriage and hopefully to carry on a prosper family line.
The Chinese dowries typically include:
- Beddings such as pillows, bolsters, comforter set, blankets, bed sheets, etc, all tied with red ribbons - New clothes in a suitcase for the bride (in the past, wardrobes or wooden wedding chest are used) - Tea set for the wedding tea ceremony - Baby bathtub, potty, face wash basin, tumblers, toothpaste and toothbrushes, mirror and comb - Two pairs of red wooden clogs, wedding slippers or bedroom slippers - Sewing basket with even-numbered rolls of colorful thread, needles, pin cushion, scissors and sewing wax with auspicious words written on it - Jewellery given by the bride’s parents
Installing the bridal bed (按床)
In the past, as part of the pre-wedding preparations, couples were expected to acquire a new bed to sleep in as a married couple. Today, most couple simply prepares a bed with new linens, often red to symbolize good luck.
The bridal bed will be installed in the couple’s room before the wedding day on an auspicious selected date. A plate of dried longans, lotus seeds, red dates, persimmons, sprig of pomegranate leaves together with 2 red packets are placed on the bed. A pair of bedside lamps is lit to symbolize adding sons to the family.
The hair combing ceremony (梳头)
This ceremony is not always performed today, but it is a lovely ritual that is meaningful and simple to perform. The night before the wedding, after the bride showers, she will then take a seat within sight of moonlight or in front of a mirror. Her hair is combed by a woman (often her mother) who is considered to be fortunate in life.
Her hair is combed four times: 一梳到尾 : the first combing symbolizes “from beginning to the end” 二百年好合 : the second combing symbolizes harmony in your marriage 三子孙满堂 : the third combing is a blessing with many children and grand children 四白发齐眉 : the fourth combing offers hope for wealth and a marriage that lasts a lifetime
The groom also goes through this ceremony in his own home.
Items required: - Pointed comb (Groom) - Round Comb (Bride) - Double-sided Comb (Groom and Bride) - Sewing kit (Bride) - 1 set of mirror (Groom and Bride) - 1 red string (Groom and Bride) - Ausipious Ruler (Groom and Bride)
Chinese Wedding Decorations (大喜装饰)
Double happiness (双喜) stickers will be placed on all wedding items such as the betrothal gifts, dowry, the couple’s toiletries and cosmetics. The bridal room furniture, especially the mirror and cupboards will also be decorated with the double happiness or other wedding paper cut-outs such as pairs of mandarin ducks, dragons and phoenixes, etc. Such red wedding paper cut-outs will also be placed on the main door, bridal room door and generally around the house.
A red banner (红彩帘) will be hung across the front doors of the two households to announce the joyous event.
Chinese Wedding Customs, The Wedding Day! (大喜日)
Hair dressing ritual (上头)
In the morning of the wedding day, a “hair-dressing” ritual is performed for the bride. A “good fortune” woman, often the bride’s mother will help to dress up the bride’s hair. She will say some auspicious words while tying up her hair in a bun (style of a married woman).
Fetching the Bride (迎亲)
In the morning of the wedding day, the groom together with a group of relatives and friends will go fetch the bride. They will carry a red tray containing a red packet with the bride’s price, pig trotters, which is the mother’s reward for bringing up the bride, even number of oranges, dried persimmons, longans, lotus seeds, and magnolia petals (pak hup – 百合).
Bride’s younger brother to open the bridal car door (小舅开车门)
The groom must not open the car door when he arrives to fetch his bride. The bride’s younger brother will pass him two oranges before opening the door. The two oranges will be left in the bridal car for good fortune. The groom will give this younger brother a red packet after he opens the car door. If the bride has no younger brother, a young male relative or a younger male friend can play the role.
Bridesmaid door games
When the groom arrived at the bride’s house, he and his bridal party will go through a mock bargaining session with the bride’s friends. The groom is often made to perform stunts or tricks before they ‘release’ the bride to him. The groom will try to buy his way in by presenting ‘Lai Shi’, token money in red packets. The entire ‘bargain’ process is joyous and good natured.
Chinese wedding ceremony (过门/拜堂成亲)
Chinese ceremonies are historically simple compared to other Chinese wedding elements. In fact, the wedding ceremony was seen more as a way to announce the wedding, which was then followed by the banquet. During the ceremony, the bride and groom would stand at the family alter, where the couple would pay homage to heaven and earth and the family ancestors. Tea, usually with lotus seeds and red dates would be offered to the groom’s parents. Finally the bride and groom would bow to each other, completing the ceremony.
The Nuptial Chamber (入洞房)
Immediately following the ceremony, the couple will be led to the bridal chamber, where both would sit on the bed. In some areas of China, honey and wine were poured into two goblets linked by a red thread. The bride and groom would take a few sips, then exchange cups and drink the rest.
Tea ceremony (敬茶)
It’s the quintessential Chinese wedding tradition: the tea ceremony. This time-honored exchange was created to show respect for the family. Historically, after they exchanged vows, the couple would serve tea to the groom’s family (the bride would have served tea privately to her own family that morning). Today many couples choose to honor both the bride and groom’s families by hosting tea ceremonies for both sets of parents.
If you are hosting two separate ceremonies, traditionally, it’s appropriate to honor the groom’s family first. The couple will serve tea to the grooms parents and elders in order of seniority. When tea is offered, the couple will receive red packets filled with money or jewellery. This is considered the formal introduction of the families.
Bride’s home visit (三朝回门)
Traditionally, the bride’s home visit is three days after the Chinese wedding ceremony. For efficiency, modern Chinese wedding usually compressed all the necessary events into a single day.
After the tea ceremony at the groom’s family home, the bride will change out of her clothing to symbolize passing of three days!
Article taken from a website!Labels: tradition
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Installation of bridal bed (安床)
安床 simply refers to the installation of bridal bed. It is important to choose an auspicious date and time to install the bridal bed as a new branch of the family is starting soon! Some food and fruits that symbolise good fortune will be placed on the bed. Thereafter the bed will be left untouched until the wedding day.
Normally, a good fortune woman, one whose husband and children are all alive and has grandchildren, may install the bridal bed. The bridal bed is moved slightly to symbolize its installation. The good fortune woman will make the bed with the new set of bridal bed linen.
After making the bed, the good fortune woman will leave on the follwoing items on a plate. There are:
- Dried Red Dates - 红枣 (Signify 早) - meaning bless the marriage with sweetness - Peanuts - 花生 (Signify 生) - Dried Longans - 桂圆 (Signify - 贵) - meaning bless the marriage with sweetness - Lotus seeds - 莲子(Signify - 子) - Bulbs Lily - 百合 (Signify - 百年好合) - Even number of tangerines or oranges - meaning good fortune - Dried persimmons - meaning bless the marriage with sweetness - Pak hup [百合 - dried magnolia petals] stands for [百年好合] - meaning hundred years of harmony in the marriage - Sprigs of pomegranate leaves - meaning power to ward off evil - Two red packets - meaning good fortune
After placing the items on the bed, she will place 4 set of of Big & Small Yuan coin with twenty cents at 4 corners of bed under mattress.
In addition, a pair of bedside lamps will be lighted. In chinese, lamp [灯 “deng”] has the similar sound as son [丁 “ding”]. So lighting the lamps [添灯] is symbolic of adding sons [添丁] to the family. These lamps are not to be turned off until wedding night
Immediately after installing the bridal bed or on the wedding day, little children are invited to roll on the bed to bless the couple with fertility. To encourage them to get on the bed, they are allowed to eat the sweet stuff on that plate which the good fortune woman has left on the bed.
This is referred to as [压床] ”ya chuang” or [翻床] “fan chuang”.
Remember to give red packets to the good fortune woman and children for their help.
Procedures to Follow: 1) If groom's parents set up and position the bridal bed, the couple will have to give ang bao to each of them. 2) If couple set up and position the bridal bed, no ang bao will be given to anybody. 3) After everything set up, nobody is supposed to enter the master bedroom till the wedding day. If the groom want to sleep on it, he need a small boy to sleep with him. It is not wise to let him sleep alone as it signify the poor health for the other partner. 4) Leave Xi plate with longans and other items on bed for 12 days. 5) Boil water with longans and other items, then drink after 12 days. If fall short of 12 days, leave plate aside and boil with water once 12 days is up after customary. 6) Keep 2 ang pows but not allow to use the money inside. 7) Do not throw Yan Ji. Leave them there forever
There are Chinese Bridal Bed Taboos to take note: 1) Except for children who are thought to bless the couple with fertility, no other adult should sit or rest on the bridal bed after its installation and before the chinese wedding. 2) It is also taboo for the bride to lie on the bridal bed before the chinese wedding. It is believed that this will lead to her poor health. 3) If the groom has to sleep on the installed bridal bed before the chinese wedding, he should be accompanied by a young boy. 4) It is considered extremely unlucky to leave one side of the bed empty while the groom sleeps on the other side. The Taiwan chinese has a saying; [睏空舖,不死尪,亦死某] which means leaving one side of the bed empty is to curse death on either half of the new couple.
Compilation article taken from a website!Labels: tradition
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Bargaining for the best bridal package
Are you over the moon and still reminiscing the sweet moments when your boyfriend proposed to you? Yes, this is not a dream! Wake up and get into actions now!
Let’s start by finding a bridal shop that will make you the envy of all women on your wedding day. Before you start, let’s familiarized with these bridal terms so that you won’t look blur when people talk to you.
* BS – Bridal shop * WG – Wedding gown * EG – Evening gown * MTM – Made-to-measure * OTR – Off -the-rack * AD – Actual day * PS – Photoshoot * PG – Photographer * VG Videographer * MUA – Make-up artist
Shortlist There are hundreds of bridal shops in Singapore - Tanjong Pagar Road alone has already a line-up of more than 20 bridal shops. Before you even attempt to step into one, do your homework first! Ask your friends who are married about their experience with their bridal shop. Read wedding forums and learn from the experience of other brides. The more popular wedding websites are Singapore Brides and Style Weddings, they have very active forum which you can refer.
If you want to have an idea of the wedding gowns designs and style of the bridal shop, buy wedding magazines and note the gowns that you like without first looking at the name of the bridal shop. Bridal magazines like Her World Brides, Style Weddings, Female Brides and Bliss has a lot of information on wedding stuff. If you do not want to spend money in buying the magazines, you can borrow them from the library. You then shortlist the bridal shops based on the gown designs that you like. A list of 5 – 10 shops is enough to keep you busy for the whole week.
Go at the right time First of all, visit the bridal shop personally. Also, don’t be caught by them on their roadshows or wedding shows, unless you have already decide to sign up with them. You may be able to get a good deal but will not be able to see much unless you visit their shop. There are peak and off-peak seasons in this line too. If you are not superstitious, go in the beginning of Lunar 7th month or right at the beginning of the Chinese New Year. They will go all out to clinch a deal even if it meant earning much less as they believe a good start means good business for them for the rest of the year.
Check them out Many brides-to-be made the mistake of bringing their boyfriend with them on the first visit. Some bridal shops use hard-selling techniques to get your business, especially when they see the “Finance Minister” with you. Don’t give in to them when you are not sure if that is the bridal shop you want. Don’t believe if they say “this special deal is only valid for today”, “you can’t find this special deal anywhere”. These are out-dated sales tactics.
The smart thing to do is to bring along a good female friend, preferably someone who has experience in dealing with bridal shops or who has good fashion sense. They are the ones who can give you good advice and stop you from doing anything foolish (ie. signing on the dotted line on the first visit). Act cool and don’t get too excited. Take your time to go through their photo albums and see if you like their photography style. Request to see their gowns collection and even try on some of them. Most bridal shops allow you to try their gowns without any commitment. Allow them to explain the bridal package to you. At this point of time, don’t attempt to bargain too much since you are not going to sign up anyway. They will usually “automatically” add on many freebies to the package. You can then guage if this is your choice based on their wedding gowns designs and variety, photography style, package price and items they have included, how comfortable you are with the co-ordinator and the overall feeling of the shop.
Decide on the bridal shop After your first visit, you should have an idea of your choice of bridal shop. If you are still undecided, bring your boyfriend to the pre-selected shops. Ask him for opinions and go with the one he feels is the best. Respect his decision. Afterall, he is the one paying.
Bargain, bargain, bargain No bridal package should be signed without bargaining. The coordinator will usually tell you the price and the items that are included. The standard items are: * AD wedding gown (MTM or OTR) * AD evening gown (MTM or OTR) * AD groom’s suit * AD groom’s pants (1 pair MTM to keep) * Trial make-up or ROM make-up * AD make-up and hairdo * Hand bouquet – AD and PS * Free use of accessories - AD and PS * Actual day bridal car decorations (may or may not include usage of car on actual day) * Outfits for PS (studio and outdoor) * 15 to 20 copies in wedding album (size varies) * Framed Portrait (size varies) * 8R table top * 4R give-away photos * Mini album (repeated poses as big album) * Photo CD
Wait! Don’t think this is good enough? For the same price, ask for more! * Wedding and evening gown – ask for MTM instead of OTR if your package does not include MTM * AD tea dress/kua * Extra suit and pant for Groom * ROM package (if you have not ROM yet) - include ROM dress, make-up, hair-do, hand bouquet, free use of accessories * AD father and father-in-law’s suits * Usage of car on AD (if not included in standard package) - including driver and petrol * More outfits for PS * Ribbons for accompanying cars * Corsages * Dress for bridesmaid and jackets for bestman * Ask for free PG or VG service during your PS or ROM. But be careful, they may assign inexperience freelancers. So, go through their portfolio before you decide to take them. * More copies in wedding album – the coordinator will increase a few, but you need to bargain for more. 20 copies is not enough to make into a proper album and you do not want to end up spending more on additional photos * Reduce cost per photo for additional photos * More give-away photos * Extra mini album * Split your PS into 2 days if you want to, at no additional charge for MUA and PG * Guestbook (not all bridal shops will have) * And any other items you can think of.
Things to take note: After going through the package and finally happy with your bargaining results, check the following * Are they quoting you nett price? * How much is the extra charge if MUA were to arrive before 7am on AD? * How much does it cost for the use of ampoule and eyelashes? * Can you choose the WG or EG with full lace, beads or embroidery? * If the PG you opt for resigned before your PS and you do not like the photography style of the new PG, can you ask for refund for the PS portion and look for your own PG? If yes, how much is the refund? * Does your BS provide a PG assistant for your PS? * Is there any pages limitation on the wedding album? If yes, how much do they charge for each additional page? * Can the extra cost for additional photo be lowered if exceed certain quantity? * Can you get the negatives back? * What are the payment procedures?
Only when you are fully satisfied, then you can sign on the dotted line. Don’t be surprised if they do not have a proper “contract”. Most of the invoices are hand-written, some with scribbles all over the place.
Happy Preparation!
Article taken from a blogger in Multiply website!Labels: bridal package
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Saturday, November 8, 2008
Choosing the Wedding Banquet - Questions to Ask
This is taken from Singapore Brides Forum.
Here are the questions you may want to ask when you book your wedding banquet:
* How much is the deposit?
* How much are the chair covers (if you would like to have them)?
* How many complimentary barrels of beer are included in the package? How many litres per barrel? Cost of extra barrel of beer? Can they throw in an extra complimentary barrel of beer?
* How many complimentary parking coupons can they provide? What happens if you need more? Same questions goes for the invitation cards.
* What are the corkage charges for hard-liquor, stout and wines?
* Is there any complimentary for wines per every confirmed tables?
* How many complimentary nights of stay is provided? If only one night, try to get two nights. In my opinion, if they provide anniversary dinner voucher, ditch it in exchange for an extra night stay.
* What is the number of tables a waiter/waitress will be serving? Who is their pool of banquet waiters/waitresses?
* Who will take charge of the event? Banquet Manager or Banquet Executive?
* How many people are invited for the trial-dinner? Full or partial menu for the trial-dinner? Is the trial-dinner on a weekday or weekend? Who will be there during food tasting?
* Are complimentary fruit cakes or chocolate pralines provided? If fruit cake is provided, what is the cost involved if you would like to have chocolate pralines?
* Who are the vendors for invitation cards, centrepieces and wedding favors?Labels: wedding banquet
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Sunday, November 30, 2008
10 Wedding Mistakes To Avoid
Avoid these common wedding pitfalls:
10) Don't Rock the Cash Bar - When it comes to alcohol at your reception, what you serve is entirely up to you. Whether you choose to serve a full bar, limited cocktails, Beer and Wine, or no alcohol at all will be based on various factors including budget. The one option that is not recommended is a Cash Bar. Your guests should be gracious enough to accept what is being offered to them. If however a guest feels the need for a drink selection that is not offered, chances are that he or she will be resourceful enough to find it.
Also, request that bartenders not put out tip jars. If you are hosting the bar, tell your catering contact that you are happy to pay gratuity to the bartender(s) but that you do not want your guests to feel obligated to tip.
9) Go flat! A huge number of brides give feedback that they wish they had worn flats, having kicked off their heels during the reception. As a bride you can expect to be standing for 8-12 hours on your wedding day. Be sure to break in your shoes well in advance. Even when wearing flats, unexpected blisters can form after a few hours on your feet.
8) Have a little faith. D.J.'s are perhaps the wedding vendor most micromanaged by couples. Too many song requests may actually impede the flow of your party. You hire your D.J. to judge when to play what music. You wouldn't instruct your Caterer step by step on how to prepare food, or your Photographer on what angles and lenses to use. Limit your D.J. request list to a few favorites and a do-not-play list of only the songs you cannot stand. Do not get carried away and have some trust.
7) Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize. What really matters most to you, the photographer, the music and dancing, the food and wine, the decorations, or being able to accommodate a large guest list? Put your money towards what you care about. You will have regrets if you skimp on what really counts. When you, the Bride and Groom are not footing the bill yourselves however, you may have to forfeit some financial decision-making. If this is the case you will need to compromise on certain priorities or if you really want that pricey photographer offer to pay for one yourself.
6) Bibbity Bobbity Boo. Wedding Dress shops are notorious for having your dress shipped in at the last minute. Think about it, if you owned a Wedding Dress Boutique you wouldn't want every brides dress held at your shop for nine+ months before their weddings. Schedule your first fitting well before your wedding. Your final dress fitting should be no less than 1 week prior to your wedding so that alterations can still be made.
Tuxedo rentals for all attendants must be tried on, that includes Dad. Whether the Tailor seemed to take precise measurements or not, too many men still show up at weddings with high waters or baggy tuxes.
5) Don't hit the road, Jack. Your wedding day is one of the biggest, most important days of your life. You will be exhausted and a bit disorderly the following day. Going away is the last thing you will want to worry about. Wait at least a couple of days before venturing on your honeymoon. Your wits will thank you.
4) Last night of single life. DO NOT hold your Bachelor or Bachelorette party the night before your wedding! This may seem like a no-brainer but many brides and grooms still practice the archaic ritual of drinking all night on that fatal evening. It is simply not worth it, as the Bride/Groom and your attendants will no doubt feel tired, look tired, have a hangover, or worse be sick walking down the aisle. If necessary, request that any out of town attendants arrive a day earlier to help you to prepare and celebrate a different night.
3) No Guidance. With no Director there are too many details left to too many people at your ceremony. Having a Wedding Coordinator allows for one person to coordinate your wedding party processional, music, minister, seating guests and to resolve any unexpected last minute complications. A Coordinator will ease the stress level of everyone, including you, tremendously on your wedding day. So if your location does not include a Wedding Day Coordinator who also directs your rehearsal, hire your own. A Wedding Coordinator may be much more affordable than you think.
2) Stretching yourself too thin. As the bride you will make everyone around you crazy by waiting until the last minute in planning and finalizing details. If you have a hard time planning and prioritizing on your own then get help. You don't want to be remembered as “one of those brides” that put everything off and then expected her friends and family to pick up the pieces, do you?
Do not commit yourself to social events the day before your wedding. This day is meant for you to wrap up loose ends, beautify yourself, attend your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner in many cases, and most importantly get some amount of rest for the day ahead. You are going to need it!
1) High demands. Try to keep in mind that although your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen may offer you extra help, these friends can become taken advantage of. The only "official obligations" of wedding party members are emotional support, the financial expense of wedding attire and travel, participation in the rehearsal and the obvious role on your wedding day. In the case of the MOH or BM, reception toasts are traditional as well. Other help that these individuals may offer should not be viewed as duties, but rather as acts of kindness including: setting up/tearing down, transporting ceremony goods, throwing a bridal shower or other party, distributing gratuities, and any other help that is offered.
Remember to be thoughtful towards your attendants. Bridesmaids may not be comfortable in 4 inch heels, purchasing new jewelry or paying to have their hair or makeup professionally styled. Do not forget to personally thank any bridal party members for taking part in your wedding, as well as family members who gave you assistance. A small thank you gift is always appreciated.
Article taken from a website!Labels: wedding mistakes
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Friday, November 28, 2008
Singapore Wedding Exhibition - February 2009
One big event holding at Singapore Expo from 20th to 22nd February 2009.
Here is the website: http://www.sgwedex.com.
Thanks Waterlily for sharing the information with us!Labels: wedding show
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Thursday, November 27, 2008
** ADV ** Bling Bling Swarovski Creations by Joyce
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Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Wedding Shows in 1st week of December 2008
Traders Hotel, Singapore Date: 6 December 2008 Saturday Time: 10.00am to 4.00pm Venue: Level 2 Price: Complimentary entry for UOB Cardmembers (Usual Price: $18) For bookings or enquiries, please email catering.ths@shangri-la.com or contact us at Tel: 6831 4319
Rendezvous Hotel, Singapore Date: 7 December 2008 Sunday Time: 11.00am to 4.00pm Venue: Straits Ballroom, Level 2 Pre-register for the Fair at S$30 nett per couple & Walk-in rate S$35 nett per couple For UOB cardmembers, enjoy a discounted rate of S$20 nett per couple For bookings or enquiries, please email banquetsales@rendezvous.com.sg or contact us at 6335 1788 / 6335 1780 / 6335 1720.Labels: wedding show
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Tuesday, November 25, 2008
About Copyrights
Dear All,
As you can see on my tagboard, the person who maintained "Wo Yao Jie Hun Le" blog said that my entry for "How to tie Wedding Band to the Ring Pillow" was copied from her website. Here I would like to clarify, Yes it is a copyright but these pictures were taken from other website until I realised this blog also has it. In the first place, I had never claimed that these photos or entry were taken by me. As for now, I decided to take the photos myself and all photos had been changed.
As I mentioned on the left hand corner, all informations comes from my research and experience, you will expect some copyrights from other websites. I will not know where it come from when everyone shared the same entry too. I, myself is a bride-to-be so I am here to compile and share all the informations with everyone just to help one another.
In future, please be advised to put a "copyright" word on your photos to avoid copyrights from other bloggers.
Thank you so much for your kind understanding!Labels: copyright
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Monday, November 24, 2008
Opinions: Photography & Videography
Meeting the photographers or videographers are quite tiring and need the patience to accommodate them. At least we managed to meet a few of them and got to know them better. Everyone of them had different characteristics so it was good to meet them up.
Our first meet-up with Motion Images:
My impression on their Video Express Highlight was too limited. Priscilla did not allow us to watch through the whole video process, instead she fast forward the gate-crashing part which we wanted to watch. Although we had seen the video online through their website, we expected to see better one but too bad, no opportunity to view the better one. So we were not interested in their videography package.
Both of us agreed that their photos were quite interesting due to the additional of the borders so we didn't find it boring. Too bad, I was not satisfied with their photo sharpness.
Although their packages were quite attractive (within our budget), we did not consider about it.
Our second meet-up with Mojo Ideas:
We had a tough time meeting with Jaze. We supposed to meet up on 29 February 2008 (Friday) at 6.30pm but he changed the timing to 7.30pm at last minute. I thought it was alright for us but my fiance could not make it. I really had a tough time arranging it. Then on 3 March 2008 (Monday), Jaze sent a message if we had arrived. I was shocked as I thought I was meeting him on 4 March 2008 (Tuesday). Well, he got mixed up with our appointment. Gosh, bad impression! What if he mixed up our wedding date?
His package was attractive which included photo montage, email invitation mailer, desktop wallpaper and video express highlight but we still felt that it was over our budget.
As for his character, he was quite inflexible in some ways because we felt that we had to follow his ways most of the time instead of following our ways. My fiance might afraid that we won't be able to fit his requirement as he had many of his own opinions.
After the discussion with my fiance, both of us agreed that the photos were not attractive plus his videos made us feel abit bored. *yawn* Definitely won't choose him unless we had no choice.
Our third meet-up with Fotowerke:
Celestine gave us a good impression because he allowed us to ask questions first before he showed us his portfolio. Quite amazingly that he could answer what we were trying to ask. From his character, we knew that he was a flexible guy who could accommodate to our timing. I seen many good comments on him through Singapore Brides Forum.
Firstly, he showed us his video express highlight which was quite entertaining. He mentioned that he did the videography service personally and he told us he could do the video express on time even if we had early solemnisation on that day. We were very happy to hear about that.
I loved his photographer's skill. I was quite amazed of the photos he showed us. I tried all ways to look at his photos to spot the sharpness but almost all the photos were very clear and special in some ways. I am very particular in choosing photography as I preferred perfectionist in photography skills and photo editing. So far this was the best album I had seen.
His packages were very attractive and it was within our budget. Worth to consider.
Our fourth meet-up with Big Day Studio:
Yow Siang was too good for us. His videography skill was strong and both of us liked his express highlight. Indeed very entertaining! Unfortunately, we could not take his package as it was very expensive. It really exceeded our budget, no matter how we combined photography package with his videography package. What I understand that he had increased his package to higher range.
Our fifth meet-up with Dreamcatcher Photography & Wow Media:
Ben was very good in photography. His photos were very similar to Fotowerke. Very sharp and clear. He was friendly and both of us did not know what to ask him because he had actually prepared FAQs for Brides and Grooms as reference.
Unfortunately, we could not take his package due to his partner, Daniel. His video was not that entertaining although acceptable. Although their package was within our budget, we would not bear to take Ben only. So we dropped the idea of getting his package.
Our sixth meet-up with Sundayz Photography:
Alex also had good skill in photography. His photos were very clear too. He also had contacts with videographer and had shown us a sample. We were fine with the work.
However both of us did not find the secure on him especially on the transportation. Most of the photographers we met, had their own transport. Our fear was when he take cab to bride's house and if along the way, met some traffic jam due to unforeseen circumstance, he could not do any back-up. I know it won't happen but most important is the security.
After all my opinions, hope it do help you. Have fun searching for photography & videography package.Labels: photography, videography
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Sunday, November 23, 2008
Nine Ways To Save Money On Wedding Photography
Weddings are memorable events for couples and their families who want to remember forever, and what better way to capture these moments than by a camera. Weddings may be gone, but the feeling of joy will always stay because of the wonderful moments captured on film. And photography expenses shouldn’t be too high if you want to have the nicest photos on your wedding day.
Here are some ideas to help you get started in producing great photos on a budget.
1) Hiring a professional photographer is the best option because he has the equipment, the experience, and the knowledge in this field. So look around in your area for professional photographers that suit your needs, and don’t charge too high.
2) If you choose the above option, do a lot of research on the price, the portfolio, and the over all behavior of the photographers you selected. Don’t just compare them on the price alone. Take note of his portfolio. Are the photos professional and outstanding? Observe his professionalism by asking his past clients (if you know one) on his punctuality and behavior. Did he come on time for their wedding? Were the arrangements made smoothly? Did they have any disagreements later on the price? Was he polite or bossy during the picture-taking? Asking questions not only about the quality of his work but also on his professionalism and personality will greatly determine your over-all satisfaction, and will ensure every dollar you pay him is worth it. You don’t want someone you hired to act grumpy and ruin your important day, do you?
3) Book as early as possible, say 6 months from your day. This way you won’t have to worry about the other clients who might also need him on the same day as your wedding.
4) Hire a photography student in a nearby university. He/she is more than willing to take on your assignment and unleash his/her creativity. As much as possible have a look at his/her works first, and observe his/her personality as well.
5) Gather your friends on your pre-wedding party and have him take photos of you.
6) Make an arrangement to keep the negatives to yourself afterwards so you can reprint them and edit them if you like. You can even use the pictures to make personalized thank you cards later that show the guests on the wedding.
7) Have your guests to take photos as many as they want by placing disposable cameras on the tables during your reception.
8) Have a talented family member take your photos. Nowadays because of digital cameras and photo editors, it is more possible than ever for an average person to take great pictures.
9) Ask for help from your friends who recently married. Advices from them will surely help you a lot because they’ve gone through what you are going through now. Ask for references, if they know of some photographers who fit your qualifications.
The first most important point to remember when setting a budget for your wedding photographer is to talk to your partner first, and determine your requirements early on and how many prints you want to make. Then seek for cost-effective alternatives. Do a lot of research, and compare your choices reasonably.
Article taken from a website!
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Saturday, November 22, 2008
Choosing an Actual Day Photographer
Start early
Good actual day wedding photographers are hard to come by and they are usually booked months or one year in advance. You can start searching by asking your friends for recommendation. You can also call up the photographers listed in Singapore Brides forum.
First of all, check out their online portfolio. If they don't have a website, arrange for an appointment with the photographers to view at their portfolio.
Things to look out
When you look at the photographer's portfolio, check the sharpness, colour tones and whether the photos were well-lit. See if you like the style of the photographer by looking at the photos of indoor, outdoor, tea ceremony, solemnisation and wedding banquet.
Years of experience
Five or more years of experience in wedding photography is best. An experienced photographer can even help advise you on your schedule and help you plan. However, an experienced photographer will usually cost more. Get a less experienced photographer if you are budget conscious and you also need to like the portfolio.
People skills
Talk to the photographer. It is important that he has good people skills as he'll be with you the whole day. He'll also be taking pictures of your friends, relatives and guests. You don't want to have an extra headache on your wedding day.
Work with the photographer As it is necessary to budget time for taking a variety of photos, discuss wedding coverage together to plan timings. Convey expectations clearly, whether you want a certain pose or more candid shots.
Know the package
There isn't a standard way of charging by the photographers. Photographer will charge you on the number of hours they work, number of photos taken on that day, number of photos to be printed, etc. Ask if you are unsure of the package.
Before you book the photographer
* Check the rate * Ask about the camera and lens * How is the digital photos developed? By professional labs? * Are all the soft copies be returned? * Are complimentary wedding albums provided and will the photos be arranged for you?Labels: photography
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Friday, November 21, 2008
Pre-wedding Photoshoot Locations
Here are the photoshoot locations for your reference:
Bedok Reservoir Park Boat Quay Botanic Garden Waterfall Bottle Tree Park @ Yishun Central Fire Station Changi Airport Changi Boardwalk Changi Yacht Club Chinese Temple @ Telok Ayer Clarke Quay Dempsey Hill East Coast Park Esplanade Park Fort Canning Park Fullerton Hotel Henderson Waves Hort Park Jalan Sultan shophouses Kent Ridge Park Labrador Park MacRitchie Reservoir Park Mandai Orchids Garden Marina @ Keppel Bay Marina Barrage Marina South Pier Merlion Park Millenia Walk Mount Faber Park Mount Sophia National Museum Peirce Reservoir Park (Lower & Upper) Portsdown Area for colonial houses, eg Colbar Pulau Ubin Punggol's End Punggol Lalang Field Quarry @ Bukit Timah Nature Reserve Red Dot Traffic Rochester Park Sentosa Beach Sentosa Cove Seletar Reservoir Park (Upper) Singapore Art Museum Singapore Botanic Gardens Singapore Flyer Singapore Zoo Spottiswoode Park St Teresa Church Stadium Waterfront Tanah Merah Tanjong Pagar Train Station Villa BaliLabels: bridal studio, pre-wedding photoshoot
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How Do You Choose a Wedding Photographer?
There are several things you need to look for with the most important being the quality of the work. It would be great if you could find a photographer that you had seen in action, perhaps at a family member or friend’s wedding.
The hardest part of choosing a wedding photographer is when you sign a contract and agree to pay before you have ever seen the photos. That’s how it works in the world of wedding photography; you must make your decision based on the faith in the photographer.
First, you are need to look for referrals. Ask your friends, family members or Singapore Brides forum who did their weddings and start compiling a list. You need to verify if these people are still doing wedding photography. Ask everyone about their wedding and their wedding pictures. Most people will even let you see their wedding photos and you can check out the photographer’s work.
Aside from samples from people you know, you can ask the photographer personally about his experience. You can call the photographers on your list and do an interview over the phone or make an appointment to meet them personally. This is your chance to ask the photographer any questions you may have such as their experience, what training they have, how well they can work with others and what different types of photography they have studied. If you are doing interview personally, the photographer can show you portfolios of their work at the same time. It is highly recommended to meet photographer personally as you get to understand them.
When you chose the photographer you think you want to use, you will have to schedule several appointments. The bride and groom, the bride’s parents and anyone else who may be taking part in paying for the wedding, should be present at these meetings regarding the wedding photography.
At these meetings, you will discuss about price, payment schedule and possible deposits. Next you will discuss the plan for taking the photos. Many people also get video and digital photographs now. Do you want these? Will your photographer be able to provide these? Will there be extra fees?
Many people have specific plans as to what they want pictures of (e.g. bride and father coming down the aisle, bride and groom, rings exchanging, the kiss, the bridesmaids, etc.) This is your chance to get all this written down so that the photographer is sure to get all the shots you want. Other people give their photographers a little more freedom to decide what pictures will be good to take.
Be sure to ask any questions you have about this important event. Your wedding photography is important to you so don’t hesitate to be clear about what you want.Labels: photography
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Thursday, November 20, 2008
Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
Your wedding vows are the words that will forever remain in your partner's heart and memory. So you want to ensure that you express exactly what you are feeling and how much you love him/her. Most people have never written wedding vows before and they aren't quite sure how to communicate what they feel into words.
Here are some helpful guidelines to ensure that the feelings in your heart are encompassed in your wedding vows:
1) Sit down with your fiancée and put some general expectations in place for your wedding vows - such as how long and how in-depth they should be.
2) Begin brainstorming. Think about your relationship and everything you've gone through together. Focus, perhaps, on a specific situation such as the moment when you realized that this was the person you were meant to be with.
3) If you use nicknames or lovable expressions with your fiancée (honey or sweetheart) you may want to incorporate these into your wedding vows.
4) If tradition is important to you, review some examples of conventional wedding vows. Most begin with "in the name of God, I (your name) take you (your fiancée's name) to be my lawfully wedded wife/husband." You may consider reciting your vows in a similar manner.
5) Avoid sad memories or stories about you and your partner fighting. Wedding vows are meant to express the joys of being together. Therefore you should focus on the positive.
6) Once you've jotted down your ideas, you'll want to express them in a smooth and flowing manner. You may want to start with past memories and work your way to the present instead of jumping randomly from topic to topic, as this will give the impression that you took little time to prepare your vows.
7) Incorporate common expressions of love such as "I love you" or "I can't live without you".
8) Once you have completed your vows be sure to read them over 2 or 3 times to ensure that they convey exactly what you want your partner to know. You might want to have a friend, family member or your wedding officiant to read them to ensure that they are appropriate and meaningful.
It's important to personalize your wedding vows and make them unique to you and your fiancée. Wedding vows are meant to convey your feelings of love. They explain why you're choosing to spend the rest of your life with your partner. Regardless of what you write, your partner loves you and is going to cherish your wedding vows as long as they come from the heart.
Article taken from a website!
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Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Wedding gown styles & shapes
Looking for that perfect wedding gown for the big day? Let us help you by explaining the basic styles and shapes you can expect to find:
Types of Wedding Gowns:
 Ball Gown / Full Skirt - Ball gown type dresses are recommended for the following body types: Full figured, pear shaped, and thin. - This style may also be considered for some people who are petite or have a hour glass figure.
 Empire Waist - Empire waist gowns are recommended for women who are petite or do not have a defined waistline. They may also be considered for women with an inverted pear shaped body. - This style is not recommended for women with hour glass figures.
 A-Line / Princess - A-line gowns are recommended for the most body types except for women who do not have a defined waistline. While neither the A-line nor Princess has a defined waistline, the Princess style does have noticeable vertical panels.
 Sheath - Sheath style gown are recommended for thin figured or petit framed women. They may also be considered for some women with a hour glass figure shaped body. - This style is not recommended for women who are thick or short waisted, full figured, or have a pear shaped body type.
 Mermaid - Mermaid style gowns are recommended for woman with a figure that they want to show off. - This style is not recommended for women who are petite, thick or short waisted, or have an inverted pear shaped body type.
Types of Necklines:
 Jewel - Suggested for women with a smaller chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger chests.
 Scoop - Works with most figures.
 Square - Works with most figures.
 V-Neck - Suggested for women with a medium sized chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger or smaller then average size chest.
 Bateau - Suggested for women with a smaller chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger chests.
 Sabrina - Suggested for women with a smaller chest. - Should be avoided by women with larger chests.
 Spagetti Straps - Suggested for women with small to average sized chest. - Should be avoided by full figured women or narrow shoulders.
 Queen Anne - Works with most figures.
 Off the Shoulder - Suggested for women with a hourglass figure or a pear shaped figure. - Should be avoided by women with thin figures, fuller arms or broad shoulders.
 Portrait - Suggested for women who are short-waisted or women with fuller arms. - Should be avoided by women with undefined collarbones or broad shoulders.
 Sweetheart - Suggested for women with a hourglass figure or women with larger chests.
 Strapless - Suggested for women who are full figured, petite, or have a hourglass figure. - Should be avoided by women with smaller chests.
 High - Suggested for women who are petite or want a dress that has a lengthening effect. - Should be avoided by women who are taller, have pear shaped figures, or narrow shoulders.
 Halter - Suggested for short-waisted women or women with broad shoulders. - Should be avoided by women with thin figures or narrow shoulders.
Types of Waistlines:
 Natural - Works with most body types. Suggested for women who are petite.
 Drop - Suggested for women with a hourglass figure, larger breasts, or have a slim figure. - Should be avoided by women with a boxy figure.
 Basque - Suggested for women who want a bodice that has a slenderizing effect; however. - Should be avoided by women who are petite or have an undefined waist.
 Empire - Suggested for women with an undefined waist, have larger hips, or are shorter. - Should be avoided by women with a hourglass figure.
Types of Sleeves:
There are many different types of sleeve types. Below is a list on the most popular: - Sleeveless: No sleeves. - Cap: Just covering the shoulders. - Short sleeve: Falls between shoulder & elbow like a t-shirt. - 3/4 sleeve: Falls between elbow & wrist. - Fitted: Fitted long sleeve. - Fitted Point: Fitted long sleeve coming to a point over the hand. - Pouf: Short, full, gathered sleeve. May be on or off the shoulder. - Juliet: Long sleeve with puffy shoulders. - Bell: Long sleeve, narrow on top and flared towards the wrist. - Poet: Long sleeve, fitted from shoulder to elbow then flared.
Types of Trains:
- Sweep: 8" to 12" - Court: about 3 feet from the waist. - Chaple: approx. 4 feet from the waist. - Cathedral: approx 6 to 9 feet from the waist. - Royal: 3 or more yards from the waist.
Types of Veils:
- Birdcage: Falls just below the chin & usually attached to a hat. - Flyaway: Ends at the shoulder. - Blusher: Worn over your face and is approx. 28" long. - Elbow Length: Ends at the elbow or waist. - Fingertip: Ends at the finger tips or just below the waist. - Ballet Ends at the ankles. - Chapel: Extends to the floor. - Cathedral: 9+ feet.
Article taken from a website!Labels: wedding gown
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Getting Ready for Pre-wedding Photoshoot
BEFORE THE PHOTOSHOOT
The Gown and the Suit
Make sure all bride’s gowns are altered and ready. Groom’s suits should be selected too. If there is any need for ethnic costumes like Kua, check if they have your size and remind them to reserve it for you on your photoshoot day.
The accessories and props
Prepare any accessories (e.g. ties, scarfs, shoes) or personal props (e.g. balloons, soft toys) you might wish to use on that day.
Locations vs Weather
Discuss with your photographer which locations you would like to go. You may also ask what they would do in case of contingencies (for example, rainy weather)
Ask your bridal coordinator what you need to bring on the actual day (besides the items below, they might have other requests).
The beauty
- Try to sleep early to prevent dark eye circles. - Exercise as usual, but try not to get obvious tan lines that may show in your photos (although these can most probably be solved by photoshop). - Maintain your facial and body regime. You can probably go for a facial or a body scrub a week before. Put on DIY face masks the last few days to keep your complexion radiant. Do not attempt to try new facial products at this time in case of breakouts! - A manicure might be necessary as your photographer might take close-up shots of your hands with your wedding rings. This is best done one day before your photoshoot.
At Least One Week Before
List of Things to Prepare: Groom
- A few colour, long sleeve shirts. In different colours or styles for the groom to change into. - A few ties - A pair of black pants and/or white pants - A pair of black formal shoes and black socks (white for Groom wearing a white suit) - Cufflinks - Dye or trim hair - Do facial care - Extra pair of frame (without lens) if need - Send Wedding Bands for polishing
List of Things to Prepare: Bride
- Shoes to match actual wedding gown, evening gown, outdoor gown and/or traditional chinese costume - Fitting of Gowns and alteration if required - Do facial care - A pair of skin-colour stockings, just in case - Order Bridal Bouquet if not provided by bridal studio or makeup artist - Dye or trim hair
One Day Before
- Check above items all prepared - Buy fresh flowers (baby's breath, caspier, freesia, roses etc) to be used as hair accessories if you want - Ensure delivery of Bridal Bouquet - Prepare casual wear if interested - Remove unsightly facial or body hair - Go for manicure and pedicure - Wash hair and make sure hair is dry before sleeping - Do not apply any hair cream/gel/mousse - Sleep early
In the Morning of Photoshoot
- Do not wash hair or apply any hair cream/gel/mousse on hair - Have a good breakfast - Bring Wedding Bands, Bridal Bouquet, fresh flowers for hair - Bring all required clothings - Bring any special accessories that you want to wear - Bride to wear a spaghetti top, a tube top, a top with front buttons or bring along a bathrobe - Bring any meaningful toys or items that you want to take photos with - Bring Bottled water for both of you (include a straw for your convenience) - Bring Light snacks that are easy to munch (in case you are hungry during outdoor photoshoot) - Bring Tissue paper - Bring Wet tissue (this comes in handy when you have to go barefoot at places like the beach) - Bring Blotting paper (for blotting shiny spots) - Bring a Mirror - Your make-up pouch (lipstick, lipgloss, compact powder, spray on mist and any others) - Umbrella (in case it rains suddenly) - Insect repellant (if you are going to forested areas, beaches, parks) - Any other accessories, if required.
OTHER THINGS TO NOTE ON THAT DAY
- Wear a button-down or spaghetti top, so that it is easier for you to change into your gown after make-up. - Do not bring too many valuables with you. - Communicate with your make-up artist on the make-up style and hairdos for each gown.
Most importantly, remember to SMILE!!! The first few times, it may seem awkward in front of the camera, but gradually you will warm up to it. A good photographer will know how to help you relax and capture your most natural shot at the right time!Labels: bridal studio, pre-wedding photoshoot
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Tuesday, November 18, 2008
How to tie Wedding Band to the Ring Pillow
Most of the ring pillows come with 2 thin ribbons which can secure the wedding band on each side.
To secure the Wedding Bands to the Ring Pillow, form a loop with one of the ribbons first.
Then place one wedding band over the loop.
Tie a knot around the ribbon loop with the free end of the same ribbon.
Pull both the loop and free end to tighten the knot. Adjust and position the wedding band to your preferred position.
Repeat the same steps for securing the other wedding band using the other ribbon.
Now you can position your wedding band flatly on the pillow before your moment of marriage vows start.
To remove the Wedding Band from the Ring Pillow, use one hand to pull the wedding band and at the same time, use the other hand to support the pillow. Slowly the knot will automatically be released.
Photos taken courteousy by Main Blogger, Cheekrene.Labels: ring pillow
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Ideas on Wedding Vows from Website
Wedding Vows #1
I, ....., take thee, ..... to be my wedded wife/husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for richer, for poorer in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance and there to I pledge thee my faith.
Wedding Vows #2
I take you, ....., to be my wife/husband, from this day forward to join with you and share all that is to come, I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us.
Wedding Vows #3
....., I take you to be my wife/husband, to laugh with you in joy, to grieve with you in sorrow, to grow with you in love serving mankind in peace and hope, as long as we both shall live.
Wedding Vows #4
I, ....., choose you, ....., in the presence of our friends and families, to be my wife/husband and partner from this time forward; to love you, to be a comfort and safe haven in your life, to hold you close, to listen deeply when you speak, to nourish you with my gentleness, to uphold you with my strength, to weigh the effects of the words I speak and the things I do, to never take you for granted, and to always give thanks for the presence in my life.
Wedding Vows #5
Dearest ....., I choose you to be my wife/husband, to be by each other's side through our life's journey together. You are my best friend. You are my precious love. You are the one I choose to spend my life with. I promise to cherish you, to honour you, to love and respect you. I promise to comfort and encourage you, when we are healthy and when we must endure sickness; when we are filled with joys of success and when we are burdened with sorrows. ....., I promise to love you without condition for all the days of my life.
Wedding Vows #6
I, ....., choose you, ....., as my wife/husband. I will love you tenderly, I will laugh with you and cry with you through the trials and triumphs to come. ....., I stand before our families and friends as your lifelong partner.
Wedding Vows #7
I, ....., choose you, ....., as my life partner. I am so glad that I waited for my dreams to come true by finding you. I am so blessed that I get to be your partner and am comforted to know that I have chosen wisely. Whatever life has in store for us, I will honor and respect our marriage and be by your side, loving you through it all the wife/husband of your dreams. ....., I will love you forever.
Wedding Vows #8
As your wife/husband, I am blessed to receive your love, I will honor you with my caring, sensitivity, strength and gentleness. I will be kind and honest, fair and true. May God always keep us and watch over our love and our home.
Wedding Vows #9
....., each of us has had quite a journey in our lives so far. I feel so blessed to have found you as my partner. I love you, and I am choosing to share all of life's blessings, challenges, joys, and sorrows with you. As your husband/wife, I promise to nurture you, to be kind and patient, forgiving and faithful. I promise to honor our differences and to learn from them. I will encourage you and stand by you in our life together, and will grow with you in the shelter of our love. I promise you this with my heart and soul. I vow to you before our families and friends, to dedicate myself to our marriage, our friendship and our love.
Wedding Vow #10
....., I love you and choose to share my life with you. I will laugh with you in times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow. I will be at your side through all of life's challenges. ....., I will love you forever.
Wedding Vows#11
....., I promise to love you, to cherish you, and to respect you in all ways, always. I promise to participate fully in our marriage partnership. I will give fully of my mind,body,heart and soul. I promise to make your plans and dreams as important to me as my own. I promise to do my share so that our lives together can be healthy, happy and abundantly satisfying. I promise to lovingly fulfill these vows each and everyday for all of my days.
Wedding Vows #12
I, ....., promise to always keep my love for you alive and out in front of all I do. I promise to be faithful and true no matter what challenges may come in our way. I promise to nurture you as my wife/husband, my lover and my best friend. I will continue to love you and cherish you, walking through this life together, hand in hand.
Wedding Vows #13
I, ....., receive you, ....., as my wife/husband. May we love one another with constancy, live joyously, laugh freely, and support our marriage though the trials and triumphs to come. I will strive to be fair and honest, wise and true. Join me in making our hopes and dreams come true today and forever.
Wedding Vows #14
....., the moment I first met you, I knew deep within my heart that I love you. Now that our love has stood the test of time, I know that I want to spend my life with you. I honor you, ..... . I cherish your spirit and am so grateful for all the ways you share your beautiful love with me each and every day. I will always be true to you, ..... , while remaining true to myself. I will nurture you with tender loving care and always be by your side whenever you need or want me. I am so blessed, Knowing that I get to spend my life with you singing,dancing,laughing and crying. And that we will raise a family together with all the joy, passion, gratitude and love that we are so fortunate to share.
Wedding Vow #15
I, ....., take you ....., to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.
Wedding Vow #16
I ....., take you, ....., to be my husband/wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.
Wedding Vow #17
I, ....., take you, ....., to be my friend, my lover, the (mother/father) of my children and my husband/wife. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and stay with you, for all eternity.
Wedding Vow #18
I, ....., choose you, ....., to be my husband/wife, to respect you in your successes and in your failures, to care for you in sickness and in health, to nurture you, and to grow with you throughout the seasons of life.
Wedding Vow #19
I, ....., take you, ....., to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the man/woman you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.
Wedding Vow #20
I, ....., promise to love and care for you and I will try in every way to be worthy of your love. I will always be honest with you, kind, patient, and forgiving. But most of all, I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you. I love you.
Wedding Vow #21
I, ....., take you, ....., to be my wife/husband, to share the good times and hard times side by side. I humbly give you my hand and my heart as I pledge my faith and love to you. Just as this ring I give you today is a circle without end, my love for you is eternal. Just as it is made of incorruptible substance, my commitment to you will never fail. With this ring, I thee wed."
Wedding Vow #22
....., do you pledge to love ....., and throughout your years together to be honest, faithful, and kind to her/him? Do you pledge to give to her/him the same happiness she/he gives to you, and to respect her for who she is, not who you want her to be? (each responds, "I do.")
Wedding Vow #23
....., with all my love, I take you to be my wife/husband. I will love you through good and the bad, through joy and the sorrow. I will try to be understanding, and to trust in you completely. Together we will face all of life's experiences and share one another's dreams and goals. I promise I will be your equal partner in an loving, honest relationship, for as long as we both shall live.
Wedding Vow #24
I, ....., promise to love you, to be your best friend, to respect and support you, to be patient with you, to work together with you to achieve our goals, to accept you unconditionally, and to share life with you throughout the years.
Wedding Vow #25
I, ....., take you to be my wife/husband from this time onward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to be your faithful husband/wife, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond; a commitment made in love, kept in faith, and eternally made new.Labels: wedding vow
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Marriage Vows and Ring Exchanging (English Version)
The following marriage vows are used at the Registry of Marriages (ROM). Couples may want to adapt it to suit their requirements.
Solemniser's Address:
Before you are joined in matrimony, it is my duty to remind you of the solemn and binding character of the vows you are about to make. Marriage according to law is the union of one man and one woman, voluntarily entered into for life, to the exclusion of all others.
Do I understand that you __________ and you __________ are here of your own free will for the purpose of becoming man and wife?
Couple answer together: Yes
Solemniser To Bridegroom:
Will you, __________ take this woman __________ to be your wedded wife, to live together in the legal estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to her, so long as you both shall live?
Bridegroom's Answer: I will
Solemniser To Bride:
Will you, __________ take this man __________ to be your wedded husband, to live together in the legal estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, be faithful to him, so long as you both shall live?
Bride's Answer: I will
Solemniser's Instructions:
Take this ring and put it upon the fourth finger of his/her left hand and repeat after me: In token and pledge of our constant faith and abiding love, with this ring I marry you.
Soleminiser's Pronouncement:
As both of you have given your consent before me to live together in matrimony and have solemnly promised, each to the other to do so, I now pronounce you two Man and Wife.Labels: wedding vow
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Monday, November 17, 2008
Registering Your Marriage
Age Requirements * 21 years and above. * For person aged between 18 and 21 years, the applicant will require the parents consent to marry. Both parents and two witnesses above 21 years old with NRICs/passport must also be present during the solemnisation of marriage. * For person under the age of 18, the applicant will be required to apply for a special marriage license.
Other Requirements * For marriage between a Singaporean/Permanent Resident (PR) and a foreigner: -If the foreigner is a work-permit holder, prior approval must be obtained from the Controller of Work Permits, check with Ministry of Manpower. * For marriage between foreigners: - One of the applicant must have stayed in Singapore continuously for at least 15 days before the date of the Notice of Marriage.
Procedure * Apply for the Notice of Marriage at www.rom.gov.sg or web kiosks at ROM. * You can also choose to e-file your Notice of Marriage. * It has to be applied at least 21 days and up to 3 months before the date of solemnisation (wedding date).
Documents to prepare for electronic filing of notice of marriage * For Applicants 1) Singaporean - NRIC or - Birth Certificate 2) Permanent Resident - NRIC or - Birth Certificate - Re-entry permit 3) Foreigners - NRIC or - Birth Certificate - Passport * For Divorcee: Original or certified true copy of the Decree Nisi Absolute will also be required. * For Widowed Person: Death Certificate of late spouse.
Witnesses (2 Persons) * Full name as appeared on NRICs or passports * NRICs or Passport numbers
Solemnisation Details * Date & Time * Venue (full address as this will appear on your marriage certificate) * Solemniser's name & license number * Solemniser's consent
Marriage Fees * Acceptable mode of payment is Credit Card.
Other advice * As the choice date for solemnisation of marriages may not be available as it had been fully-booked by others, it is advisable to choose alternative dates before you file for your notice of marriage. * It is advisable to shop for your wedding rings at least 6 weeks before your wedding date. This will ensure that the jeweler has ample time to re-order the rings that you want, if they were out of stock. * Etiquette towards the Solemniser. - Language preference for solemnisation - Requirement(s) such as meeting up and/or pre-marriage preparation - Invite your Solemniser personally (third party such as a relative or wedding planner is not entertained)
Note that your Solemniser sacrifices personal time and efforts when he/she accepts your invitation to grace your joyous occasion as Guest-of-Honour. As a gesture of appreciation, please ensure that he/she is warmly received, entertained, and reimbursed for transport to and from your wedding venue.
Registry of Marriages 7, Canning Rise Singapore 179869 Tel (info): 6338-9987 Tel (main): 6338-7808 Fax : 65-6339 3328
Operating Hours: 1) Mondays to Fridays - 8.30 am - 12.30 noon - 2.30 pm - 4.30 pm 2) Saturdays - 8.00 am - 12 noon 3) Sundays and Public Holidays - ClosedLabels: ROM
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Guide for solemnisation
Before taking vows and exchange rings to become man and wife, you have to ensure the following list:
1) Decide the date, time and venue for your solemnisation, either at ROM or outside ROM.
2) To hold your solemnisation outside ROM, you need to get a Solemniser. Click this website for the list. It is best to meet up with your Solemniser to obtain a consent form and license number.
3) Next, E-file at the ROM website. Take note of the earliest and latest date you have to e-file! The solemnisation can only take place after 21 days of e-file and within 3 months of e-file.
4) Get ready the following documents before you e-file: * Names and I/C number of Bride-to-be and Groom-to-be * Names and I/C number of your two witnesses (they must be at least 21 years old and above) * Solemniser's license number (For solemnisation outside ROM) * Date, time, address of solemnisation location (For solemnisation outside ROM) * Credit card for payment * Make sure your printer has sufficient ink to print out the confirmation notice and important instructions you have to take note of.
5) Once done with e-file, take note of the date and time BOTH of you have to go down to ROM for Verification and Statutory Declarations. Following documents to bring are: * Original I/C of Bride-to-be and Groom-to-be * Photocopies of your two witnesses' I/C * Solemniser's consent form (For solemnisation outside ROM)
6) You will receive the following (For solemnisation outside ROM): * A copy of the Certificate of Marriage * A duplicated copy of the Certificate of Marriage (For Bride, Groom, Witnesses and Solemniser to sign on the solemnisation day) * A return envelope
7) Remember to buy your wedding band before your BIG DAY!Labels: ROM
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Sunday, November 16, 2008
Bridal Studio Package Checklist
What are the things you have to ask or look out for in your bridal package? This was compiled by one of the brides-to-be in Multiply account and I amended some of her lists based on my knowledge and experience. Hope it will clear your doubts.
CLOTHES * Tea-dress / Kua * ROM gown * Wedding gown - Can be the choice of Off-The-Rack (OTR) or Made-To-Measure (MTM) * Evening gown - Either OTR or MTM * Men's suit - Either OTR or MTM, how many? * Men's pants - Must be MTM, how many? Can it be kept? * Sister's gown * Fathers' coats for 2 * Usage of bridal accessories (free or rental). How many sets? * Restrictions in choosing the gowns or choose any gown in the shop * Actual day gown to be different from Photo-shoot gown? * Can keep the gowns? * Need to top up extra for more embroidery or lace? * Try the gown before signing the package?
MAKE-UP * Trial make-up - is it before photo-shoot or before actual wedding day? * Make-up for Photo-shoot on bride, how about groom? * Two make-up for the actual wedding day (Both morning and night) * Additional cost besides ampoule & false eyelashes * Transport cost for make-up artist * Additional cost if need to reach at 4am or 6am? Evening, any time? * Is it same make-up artist for Photo-shoot & Actual day? * Any additional cost for ROM make-up?
HAIR STYLE * Any charges for hair setting? * Any real flowers on hair? * Does make-up artist do hair styles?
FLOWERS * Hand bouquet for both indoor and outdoor photo-shoot (preferably real flowers) * Hand bouquet for the actual wedding day * 6 corsages (4 for both parents and 2 for groom) * Wrist corsages for sisters
BRIDAL CAR * Chauffeur provided? * Petrol provided? * Brand/model? * If downgrade to lower brand/model, can reduce cost? * If opt out the car, can reduce cost or exchange for more photos? * Bridal car decoration * Sets of ribbons for accompanying cars * If not using bridal car from bridal studio (BS), will BS advise or help us on the car decoration?
PHOTOGRAPHY * Any chances to meet up with photographer to understand each other's styles before photo-shoot? * Any flexibility to use own preferred photographer? * How many outfits for pre-wedding photo-shoot? * Studio Photography: How many changes in hair style and make-up? * Studio Photography: Polaroid before every change in style? * Outdoor photography - usually 2 locations * Outdoor photography: transport provided? * Outdoor photography: numbers of followers? * Outdoor photography: if rain? Additional cost? Any flexibility to change to another day? * If spread over 2 days for indoor and outdoor, any additional cost? * Able to get back selected and unselected RAW photos? When?
ALBUM * Numbers of photos or poses? - Most package give at least 24 pieces and upon bargain, top up to 30 * Cost of photo for top up ($65-$95) * Customise package for top-up photos * Any free 2R or 4R photos for give aways? How many? * Photo album size (12” x 15’ or 15’ x 20”) * If separate to 1 indoor album and 1 outdoor album, any additional cost? * Mini album with all photos included * Digital effect or normal * Touch up of photos * One portrait size photo (inclusive of framing) or 3 photos in one frame * One table top photo - if possible, bargain for more
ACTUAL DAY PHOTOGRAPHER * Is it provided? * Who’s the photographer? Same as my photo-shoot photographer? * Number of free rolls * Able to give me unlimited shots in CD Rom? * Any additional costs for photographer, eg transport costs & additional costs if needs to be there at 4am or 6am?
ADDITIONAL STUFFS * Guest book * Any free anniversary shots & for how long? If there is, how many free pieces are you entitled? And how much per top up piece?
PAYMENT * Deposit * Gown confirmation * Studio Day * Album Collection * Top-up photos - full payment upon confirmation of photos selection?
What to look out for when choosing a bridal package? * Consider the package price, design, workmanship, service and photography style.
Do not choose a package solely on price factor * Choose your package carefully. If not, you may end up paying more when you are not satisfied with the one you chose and had to switch to another bridal shop. * Some bridal shop can offer cheaper packages because cheaper materials are used in making the wedding gown and suit. * Some limit their in-house photographer on the number of film used when taking photos. * Remember to ask for the price of extra photos before you make your decision. Some bridal shop charge higher than others on the extra photos for the album.
Design, Workmanship and Quality * Look at the designs of the gowns, feel the material and check the workmanship on the gowns. * Looking at the laces on the gowns, some shops don't tidy up the laces resulting in poor finishing.
Photography style * 2 main photography style: the classical or the contemporary style * The classical style is otherwise known as the "Taiwanese" style. The two styles can have very different results on a couple. * Request to look at customers' photos instead of model shoot. Some shops employ outside photographers to shoot their sample portfolio and these photographers most likely do not take your wedding photos. * Some shops have more than one in-house photographer. If you have identified a photographer that you like, request for that photographer to shoot your studio and outdoor photos.
I hope the above lists will be able to help you to take note or bargain for good deal in bridal package. Most importantly, you must win the trust and build up the relationship with the coordinator or else it will be difficult to bargain for more stuffs till your wedding day. Last but not least, both of you must feel comfortable with the person you are going to work with till your wedding.
So have fun!Labels: bridal package, checklist
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Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Bridal Packages Essentials
With so many bridal studios to choose from, one does get overwhelmed with the bridal package that bridal studios offer. Before signing up for the package, it is recommended that both the bride and groom shall visit various studios to look at the wedding gowns and their final products. The final product is often the wedding album.
Important Questions:
Clothes * Do I need coats for the fathers? * Can I rent coats for own brothers? * Do I need a ROM or tea dress? * Do I want my bridesmaids to wear the same clothes? * How many sets of wedding gowns do I want? * Gowns and Suits (for Photography and Actual Day) * 1 Wedding gown * 1 Evening gown * 1 Tea Dress/Kua * Groom’s suit * Check if gowns are Off-The-Rack(OTR) or Made-To-Measure(MTM) * Ask for rental cost of additional gowns or coats
Make-up & Hair Styling * 1 Trial make up * 1 Make-up for Photoshoot * 1 Actual Day make-up (Morning) * 1 Actual Day make-up (Evening) * Check if trial makeup can be used for ROM * How many hair styles for photoshoot? * Ask if there is any additional costs for ampoules and hair setting
Flowers * Bouquet for Photoshoot * Bouquet for Actual Day * Corsages (For Groom and both parents) * Check if bouquets are fake flowers or fresh flowers
Bridal Car * Rental of Bridal car with chauffeur and petrol provided * Decoration for Bridal Car * Check if extra sets of ribbons for accompanying cars are included
Bridal Accessories * At least two sets (Tiara, Necklace, Earrings)
Photography * Studio Photography - Check if rental of studio is included * Do I want special effects on the photos? * Do I want a lot of outdoor shoots? * Do I want a lot of photos? * Outdoor Photography (usually 2 locations) - any extra charges for additional location * Ask if I need to provide transport for photographer(s) * An album should have at least 24 pieces of photos * Check if bargain on more photos whenever possible * The type and size of album * Whether digital enhancement is included * Ask about cost per additional page or photo * Cost for digital enhancement * Whether cost is for one page or one photo (in case of multiple photos on a page) * Whether can keep all the sample photos/negatives/soft copies * CD-Rom of all the photos selected for the album * Portrait size photo with frame * Table top photo * Any 2R or 4R giveaways photos
Other things to check or ask * Design, Workmanship and Quality of gowns * Validity period for package * Choosing of makeup artist * Choosing of photographer * Photography style * Additional deposit * Period to return gown/coat * Fixed bridal coordinatorLabels: bridal package, checklist
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Sunday, November 9, 2008
Representation of dowry
Baby’s bath: A sure indication that the bride wants to care for babies.
Lamps: They give light that spreads out good fortune and many children. Fueling and caring for the lamp mean more children. It's always a must to buy in a pair for lamps.
Washbowl: For the bride to wash her mother-in-law and father-in-law as a sign of respect.
Child’s bucket: Though it looks like a spittoon, it’s just a pot that has two oranges placed inside and is then covered with red paper. A male child in the bride’s new family is then invited to tear the paper, eat the fruit and pee in the pot meaning a prayer for male children.
Ruler: The bride and groom are ready to act as adults now meaning a symbol that they will always measure the consequences of what they do.
Towels, toothpaste, toothbrushes, pairs of slippers: Two of each because everything in a new home needs to be new. For the bride and for the groom, the slippers come with small silver coins to bring good fortune. (The slippers used to be clogs, “but young people don’t know how to walk in clogs nowadays!”)
A tea set: For the bride to serve tea to the parents. The tea set traditionally has cups with handles = ears = a daughter-in-law who will listen to her elders and betters.
Plus a special box containing: - All sorts of beans = the start of a garden = growth and good fortune. - Pin cushion decorated by many boys meaning you will be blessed with many boys - Box of coloured threads + black + white meaning a life full of colour “until your hair turns from black to white.” - A measuring tape meaning you will always be measuring yourself for new clothes = a life of plenty. - A pair of scissors meaning you will always be cutting cloth to make new clothes = a life of plenty.Labels: tradition
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Chinese Wedding Customs
Chinese wedding traditions are as varied and complex. During the centuries of ethnic Chinese migration throughout Asia, traditions have evolved and changed due to a myriad of regional and cultural influences. The traditions discussed here offer a preliminary overview for couples who wish to include elements of their Chinese heritage in their wedding plans.
Chinese Wedding Customs, Pre-wedding Day
Selecting an auspicious date (看日子)
It is customary for a Chinese couple to consult a fortune-teller or feng shui master to select an auspicious wedding date. Using the Chinese calendar, the date best suited for the couple is based on their birth dates and Chinese zodiac signs. It’s considered good luck to marry on an even day and month of the year.
There are many factors that will have to be taken into consideration when choosing a wedding date. The seventh lunar month of the Chinese calendar is usually considered inauspicious. Traditionally, that is the time of the Hungry Ghost Festival, making it a less desirable time for a wedding.
After the selection of the wedding day, wedding details such as the types and quantities of betrothal gifts, bride’s price (聘金) and number of tables at the wedding banquet provided by the groom’s parents for the bride’s parents guests are agreed.
The Betrothal (过大礼/纳彩)
Because traditions are ever-changing, betrothal ceremonies ranged from a formal proposal letter to gift exchange. This gesture has a meaning to prove the sincerity towards the marriage between the binding of two families and the promises of taking care of the bride. Here are a few of the most practiced rituals.
Up to a month or at least three days before the wedding day, the groom’s family would present betrothal gifts to the bride’s family. The gifts include: Western and Chinese wedding cakes, peanut candies, two bottles of brandy, pig trotters (which is now being replaced by tin canned ones), even number of oranges, two pairs of dragon and phoenix candles (龙凤烛), jewellery from the groom’s parents to the bride such as the dragon and phoenix bangles (琢) or four items of gold (四点金). Some would also include the bride’s price with the betrothal gifts while others prefer to present it when the groom fetches the bride.
In exchange, the bride’s family will replace the 2 bottles of brandy with 2 bottles of orange syrup, even numbered portion of all the other gifts and 2 phoenix candles. The bride’s family will light the 2 dragon candles and the groom’s family the phoenix candles on the morning of the wedding day.
Some Hokkien families will also request for a bunch of bananas and red dates to be included in the gifts, a red packet for the groom’s parents to buy shoes is also required. The bride will also present towels to the parents, grandparents, aunt, uncles, and groom’s siblings.
The gifts from the groom’s family acknowledged the bride’s parents’ efforts in raising the girl. By accepting these gifts, the bride’s family pledged her to the groom’s family.
After the betrothal, the Chinese wedding invitations are distributed.
The bride’s dowry (送嫁妆)
Dowry is a blessing from the bride's parents to their own daughter and future son in-law, it also symbolises that their precious daughter has grown up and ready to fullfill the role of someboby's wife. This procedure is done on an ausipious date chosen by a professional Feng Shui consultant before the wedding day.Dowry is a process where the bride's parents will buy items like bedsheet, baby prosperity set, toiletries like mug, toothbrush and toothpaste for the wedding couple to start a blessful marriage together. The individual items has a special meaning behind. All of them are blessing to the couples for a everlasting marriage and hopefully to carry on a prosper family line.
The Chinese dowries typically include:
- Beddings such as pillows, bolsters, comforter set, blankets, bed sheets, etc, all tied with red ribbons - New clothes in a suitcase for the bride (in the past, wardrobes or wooden wedding chest are used) - Tea set for the wedding tea ceremony - Baby bathtub, potty, face wash basin, tumblers, toothpaste and toothbrushes, mirror and comb - Two pairs of red wooden clogs, wedding slippers or bedroom slippers - Sewing basket with even-numbered rolls of colorful thread, needles, pin cushion, scissors and sewing wax with auspicious words written on it - Jewellery given by the bride’s parents
Installing the bridal bed (按床)
In the past, as part of the pre-wedding preparations, couples were expected to acquire a new bed to sleep in as a married couple. Today, most couple simply prepares a bed with new linens, often red to symbolize good luck.
The bridal bed will be installed in the couple’s room before the wedding day on an auspicious selected date. A plate of dried longans, lotus seeds, red dates, persimmons, sprig of pomegranate leaves together with 2 red packets are placed on the bed. A pair of bedside lamps is lit to symbolize adding sons to the family.
The hair combing ceremony (梳头)
This ceremony is not always performed today, but it is a lovely ritual that is meaningful and simple to perform. The night before the wedding, after the bride showers, she will then take a seat within sight of moonlight or in front of a mirror. Her hair is combed by a woman (often her mother) who is considered to be fortunate in life.
Her hair is combed four times: 一梳到尾 : the first combing symbolizes “from beginning to the end” 二百年好合 : the second combing symbolizes harmony in your marriage 三子孙满堂 : the third combing is a blessing with many children and grand children 四白发齐眉 : the fourth combing offers hope for wealth and a marriage that lasts a lifetime
The groom also goes through this ceremony in his own home.
Items required: - Pointed comb (Groom) - Round Comb (Bride) - Double-sided Comb (Groom and Bride) - Sewing kit (Bride) - 1 set of mirror (Groom and Bride) - 1 red string (Groom and Bride) - Ausipious Ruler (Groom and Bride)
Chinese Wedding Decorations (大喜装饰)
Double happiness (双喜) stickers will be placed on all wedding items such as the betrothal gifts, dowry, the couple’s toiletries and cosmetics. The bridal room furniture, especially the mirror and cupboards will also be decorated with the double happiness or other wedding paper cut-outs such as pairs of mandarin ducks, dragons and phoenixes, etc. Such red wedding paper cut-outs will also be placed on the main door, bridal room door and generally around the house.
A red banner (红彩帘) will be hung across the front doors of the two households to announce the joyous event.
Chinese Wedding Customs, The Wedding Day! (大喜日)
Hair dressing ritual (上头)
In the morning of the wedding day, a “hair-dressing” ritual is performed for the bride. A “good fortune” woman, often the bride’s mother will help to dress up the bride’s hair. She will say some auspicious words while tying up her hair in a bun (style of a married woman).
Fetching the Bride (迎亲)
In the morning of the wedding day, the groom together with a group of relatives and friends will go fetch the bride. They will carry a red tray containing a red packet with the bride’s price, pig trotters, which is the mother’s reward for bringing up the bride, even number of oranges, dried persimmons, longans, lotus seeds, and magnolia petals (pak hup – 百合).
Bride’s younger brother to open the bridal car door (小舅开车门)
The groom must not open the car door when he arrives to fetch his bride. The bride’s younger brother will pass him two oranges before opening the door. The two oranges will be left in the bridal car for good fortune. The groom will give this younger brother a red packet after he opens the car door. If the bride has no younger brother, a young male relative or a younger male friend can play the role.
Bridesmaid door games
When the groom arrived at the bride’s house, he and his bridal party will go through a mock bargaining session with the bride’s friends. The groom is often made to perform stunts or tricks before they ‘release’ the bride to him. The groom will try to buy his way in by presenting ‘Lai Shi’, token money in red packets. The entire ‘bargain’ process is joyous and good natured.
Chinese wedding ceremony (过门/拜堂成亲)
Chinese ceremonies are historically simple compared to other Chinese wedding elements. In fact, the wedding ceremony was seen more as a way to announce the wedding, which was then followed by the banquet. During the ceremony, the bride and groom would stand at the family alter, where the couple would pay homage to heaven and earth and the family ancestors. Tea, usually with lotus seeds and red dates would be offered to the groom’s parents. Finally the bride and groom would bow to each other, completing the ceremony.
The Nuptial Chamber (入洞房)
Immediately following the ceremony, the couple will be led to the bridal chamber, where both would sit on the bed. In some areas of China, honey and wine were poured into two goblets linked by a red thread. The bride and groom would take a few sips, then exchange cups and drink the rest.
Tea ceremony (敬茶)
It’s the quintessential Chinese wedding tradition: the tea ceremony. This time-honored exchange was created to show respect for the family. Historically, after they exchanged vows, the couple would serve tea to the groom’s family (the bride would have served tea privately to her own family that morning). Today many couples choose to honor both the bride and groom’s families by hosting tea ceremonies for both sets of parents.
If you are hosting two separate ceremonies, traditionally, it’s appropriate to honor the groom’s family first. The couple will serve tea to the grooms parents and elders in order of seniority. When tea is offered, the couple will receive red packets filled with money or jewellery. This is considered the formal introduction of the families.
Bride’s home visit (三朝回门)
Traditionally, the bride’s home visit is three days after the Chinese wedding ceremony. For efficiency, modern Chinese wedding usually compressed all the necessary events into a single day.
After the tea ceremony at the groom’s family home, the bride will change out of her clothing to symbolize passing of three days!
Article taken from a website!Labels: tradition
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Installation of bridal bed (安床)
安床 simply refers to the installation of bridal bed. It is important to choose an auspicious date and time to install the bridal bed as a new branch of the family is starting soon! Some food and fruits that symbolise good fortune will be placed on the bed. Thereafter the bed will be left untouched until the wedding day.
Normally, a good fortune woman, one whose husband and children are all alive and has grandchildren, may install the bridal bed. The bridal bed is moved slightly to symbolize its installation. The good fortune woman will make the bed with the new set of bridal bed linen.
After making the bed, the good fortune woman will leave on the follwoing items on a plate. There are:
- Dried Red Dates - 红枣 (Signify 早) - meaning bless the marriage with sweetness - Peanuts - 花生 (Signify 生) - Dried Longans - 桂圆 (Signify - 贵) - meaning bless the marriage with sweetness - Lotus seeds - 莲子(Signify - 子) - Bulbs Lily - 百合 (Signify - 百年好合) - Even number of tangerines or oranges - meaning good fortune - Dried persimmons - meaning bless the marriage with sweetness - Pak hup [百合 - dried magnolia petals] stands for [百年好合] - meaning hundred years of harmony in the marriage - Sprigs of pomegranate leaves - meaning power to ward off evil - Two red packets - meaning good fortune
After placing the items on the bed, she will place 4 set of of Big & Small Yuan coin with twenty cents at 4 corners of bed under mattress.
In addition, a pair of bedside lamps will be lighted. In chinese, lamp [灯 “deng”] has the similar sound as son [丁 “ding”]. So lighting the lamps [添灯] is symbolic of adding sons [添丁] to the family. These lamps are not to be turned off until wedding night
Immediately after installing the bridal bed or on the wedding day, little children are invited to roll on the bed to bless the couple with fertility. To encourage them to get on the bed, they are allowed to eat the sweet stuff on that plate which the good fortune woman has left on the bed.
This is referred to as [压床] ”ya chuang” or [翻床] “fan chuang”.
Remember to give red packets to the good fortune woman and children for their help.
Procedures to Follow: 1) If groom's parents set up and position the bridal bed, the couple will have to give ang bao to each of them. 2) If couple set up and position the bridal bed, no ang bao will be given to anybody. 3) After everything set up, nobody is supposed to enter the master bedroom till the wedding day. If the groom want to sleep on it, he need a small boy to sleep with him. It is not wise to let him sleep alone as it signify the poor health for the other partner. 4) Leave Xi plate with longans and other items on bed for 12 days. 5) Boil water with longans and other items, then drink after 12 days. If fall short of 12 days, leave plate aside and boil with water once 12 days is up after customary. 6) Keep 2 ang pows but not allow to use the money inside. 7) Do not throw Yan Ji. Leave them there forever
There are Chinese Bridal Bed Taboos to take note: 1) Except for children who are thought to bless the couple with fertility, no other adult should sit or rest on the bridal bed after its installation and before the chinese wedding. 2) It is also taboo for the bride to lie on the bridal bed before the chinese wedding. It is believed that this will lead to her poor health. 3) If the groom has to sleep on the installed bridal bed before the chinese wedding, he should be accompanied by a young boy. 4) It is considered extremely unlucky to leave one side of the bed empty while the groom sleeps on the other side. The Taiwan chinese has a saying; [睏空舖,不死尪,亦死某] which means leaving one side of the bed empty is to curse death on either half of the new couple.
Compilation article taken from a website!Labels: tradition
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Bargaining for the best bridal package
Are you over the moon and still reminiscing the sweet moments when your boyfriend proposed to you? Yes, this is not a dream! Wake up and get into actions now!
Let’s start by finding a bridal shop that will make you the envy of all women on your wedding day. Before you start, let’s familiarized with these bridal terms so that you won’t look blur when people talk to you.
* BS – Bridal shop * WG – Wedding gown * EG – Evening gown * MTM – Made-to-measure * OTR – Off -the-rack * AD – Actual day * PS – Photoshoot * PG – Photographer * VG Videographer * MUA – Make-up artist
Shortlist There are hundreds of bridal shops in Singapore - Tanjong Pagar Road alone has already a line-up of more than 20 bridal shops. Before you even attempt to step into one, do your homework first! Ask your friends who are married about their experience with their bridal shop. Read wedding forums and learn from the experience of other brides. The more popular wedding websites are Singapore Brides and Style Weddings, they have very active forum which you can refer.
If you want to have an idea of the wedding gowns designs and style of the bridal shop, buy wedding magazines and note the gowns that you like without first looking at the name of the bridal shop. Bridal magazines like Her World Brides, Style Weddings, Female Brides and Bliss has a lot of information on wedding stuff. If you do not want to spend money in buying the magazines, you can borrow them from the library. You then shortlist the bridal shops based on the gown designs that you like. A list of 5 – 10 shops is enough to keep you busy for the whole week.
Go at the right time First of all, visit the bridal shop personally. Also, don’t be caught by them on their roadshows or wedding shows, unless you have already decide to sign up with them. You may be able to get a good deal but will not be able to see much unless you visit their shop. There are peak and off-peak seasons in this line too. If you are not superstitious, go in the beginning of Lunar 7th month or right at the beginning of the Chinese New Year. They will go all out to clinch a deal even if it meant earning much less as they believe a good start means good business for them for the rest of the year.
Check them out Many brides-to-be made the mistake of bringing their boyfriend with them on the first visit. Some bridal shops use hard-selling techniques to get your business, especially when they see the “Finance Minister” with you. Don’t give in to them when you are not sure if that is the bridal shop you want. Don’t believe if they say “this special deal is only valid for today”, “you can’t find this special deal anywhere”. These are out-dated sales tactics.
The smart thing to do is to bring along a good female friend, preferably someone who has experience in dealing with bridal shops or who has good fashion sense. They are the ones who can give you good advice and stop you from doing anything foolish (ie. signing on the dotted line on the first visit). Act cool and don’t get too excited. Take your time to go through their photo albums and see if you like their photography style. Request to see their gowns collection and even try on some of them. Most bridal shops allow you to try their gowns without any commitment. Allow them to explain the bridal package to you. At this point of time, don’t attempt to bargain too much since you are not going to sign up anyway. They will usually “automatically” add on many freebies to the package. You can then guage if this is your choice based on their wedding gowns designs and variety, photography style, package price and items they have included, how comfortable you are with the co-ordinator and the overall feeling of the shop.
Decide on the bridal shop After your first visit, you should have an idea of your choice of bridal shop. If you are still undecided, bring your boyfriend to the pre-selected shops. Ask him for opinions and go with the one he feels is the best. Respect his decision. Afterall, he is the one paying.
Bargain, bargain, bargain No bridal package should be signed without bargaining. The coordinator will usually tell you the price and the items that are included. The standard items are: * AD wedding gown (MTM or OTR) * AD evening gown (MTM or OTR) * AD groom’s suit * AD groom’s pants (1 pair MTM to keep) * Trial make-up or ROM make-up * AD make-up and hairdo * Hand bouquet – AD and PS * Free use of accessories - AD and PS * Actual day bridal car decorations (may or may not include usage of car on actual day) * Outfits for PS (studio and outdoor) * 15 to 20 copies in wedding album (size varies) * Framed Portrait (size varies) * 8R table top * 4R give-away photos * Mini album (repeated poses as big album) * Photo CD
Wait! Don’t think this is good enough? For the same price, ask for more! * Wedding and evening gown – ask for MTM instead of OTR if your package does not include MTM * AD tea dress/kua * Extra suit and pant for Groom * ROM package (if you have not ROM yet) - include ROM dress, make-up, hair-do, hand bouquet, free use of accessories * AD father and father-in-law’s suits * Usage of car on AD (if not included in standard package) - including driver and petrol * More outfits for PS * Ribbons for accompanying cars * Corsages * Dress for bridesmaid and jackets for bestman * Ask for free PG or VG service during your PS or ROM. But be careful, they may assign inexperience freelancers. So, go through their portfolio before you decide to take them. * More copies in wedding album – the coordinator will increase a few, but you need to bargain for more. 20 copies is not enough to make into a proper album and you do not want to end up spending more on additional photos * Reduce cost per photo for additional photos * More give-away photos * Extra mini album * Split your PS into 2 days if you want to, at no additional charge for MUA and PG * Guestbook (not all bridal shops will have) * And any other items you can think of.
Things to take note: After going through the package and finally happy with your bargaining results, check the following * Are they quoting you nett price? * How much is the extra charge if MUA were to arrive before 7am on AD? * How much does it cost for the use of ampoule and eyelashes? * Can you choose the WG or EG with full lace, beads or embroidery? * If the PG you opt for resigned before your PS and you do not like the photography style of the new PG, can you ask for refund for the PS portion and look for your own PG? If yes, how much is the refund? * Does your BS provide a PG assistant for your PS? * Is there any pages limitation on the wedding album? If yes, how much do they charge for each additional page? * Can the extra cost for additional photo be lowered if exceed certain quantity? * Can you get the negatives back? * What are the payment procedures?
Only when you are fully satisfied, then you can sign on the dotted line. Don’t be surprised if they do not have a proper “contract”. Most of the invoices are hand-written, some with scribbles all over the place.
Happy Preparation!
Article taken from a blogger in Multiply website!Labels: bridal package
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Saturday, November 8, 2008
Choosing the Wedding Banquet - Questions to Ask
This is taken from Singapore Brides Forum.
Here are the questions you may want to ask when you book your wedding banquet:
* How much is the deposit?
* How much are the chair covers (if you would like to have them)?
* How many complimentary barrels of beer are included in the package? How many litres per barrel? Cost of extra barrel of beer? Can they throw in an extra complimentary barrel of beer?
* How many complimentary parking coupons can they provide? What happens if you need more? Same questions goes for the invitation cards.
* What are the corkage charges for hard-liquor, stout and wines?
* Is there any complimentary for wines per every confirmed tables?
* How many complimentary nights of stay is provided? If only one night, try to get two nights. In my opinion, if they provide anniversary dinner voucher, ditch it in exchange for an extra night stay.
* What is the number of tables a waiter/waitress will be serving? Who is their pool of banquet waiters/waitresses?
* Who will take charge of the event? Banquet Manager or Banquet Executive?
* How many people are invited for the trial-dinner? Full or partial menu for the trial-dinner? Is the trial-dinner on a weekday or weekend? Who will be there during food tasting?
* Are complimentary fruit cakes or chocolate pralines provided? If fruit cake is provided, what is the cost involved if you would like to have chocolate pralines?
* Who are the vendors for invitation cards, centrepieces and wedding favors?Labels: wedding banquet
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